There's a girl flirting with me from across the library :P

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dodoz123

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Aight guys, this is going to sound embarrassing on my part. I've probably been in this situation loads of times but never done anything about it ever.

There's a hot girl with her friends in the library. She keeps smiling at me and looking at me when I'm not looking me. She also passed by my desk to smile at me.

What do I do :P shes with her friends studying.

Any ideas :P
 
I got some advice, it's tricky but it works:

Say: "Hi". Maybe ask her what her name is, keep it simple. Be confident, not nervous.
 
"Was I breaking your studying concentration? I'm [name], by the way"

If she's smiling like that, she's begging you to come talk to her. Just do it.
 
Wow I love the advice and encouragement from the group. One day I'll work up the confidence :P I'm still recovering. Plus she's in a large group. It's easier when a girls alone. I feel like her friends might cockblock me :P
 
dodoz123 said:
Wow I love the advice and encouragement from the group. One day I'll work up the confidence :P I'm still recovering. Plus she's in a large group. It's easier when a girls alone. I feel like her friends might cockblock me :P
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Yep. They are harder to engage whilst in a pack.
 
OK buddy one time at bjs I just walked over to a group of like 6 girls and it was one of their birthdays with all the servers around and stuff, so in a way a little harder depending on the person.

So here it is like "I think you are all really cute but I couldn't help noticing your friend checking me out". Honestly though just feel out the group be the likable guy be dominant. There are two routes in my mind either win the group or the girl. I mean the end game is both. So my opinion talk to the whole group. Listen you may mess up but i guarantee you no one else has done it so you will be the first guy to have done it and they will help you buddy.

So just do it, no cheesy pickup lines be dominant eye contact. In fact if you want to be dominant when you shake her hand pull her towards you, and keep that eye contact. And if her friends cock-block you its because she might not like you and so far I see no reason why not so I wouldn't worry about it.

But honestly its practice and helps you become comfortable and if there is a 1 percent chance of it working then do it man. Let me tell you I recently met this girl I liked well I met her dad and that was more nerve racking than walking up to a group of 5 girls so just remember your upping your nerve threshold as well and there are no cons my man only positives.

Good luck on the girl and your streak.
 
Walk over say hello maybe throw in a compliment do some light conversation then tell her she's nice girl (if she is) and that both of you should pick up some time ,ask her for number then call her a few days later ask if she wants to go to lunch or something else causal just nothing that spells D A T E like the movies or somthing along those lines
 
I second FinalFight's advice. Groups of girls are great. With one girl it can be hard to engage because maybe your male brain is just thinking "sex, sex, sex, let's go have sex." But it is hard to walk up to a group of women and honestly think you can take the whole herd to bed. So then you actually act more natural in conversation. It flows. And yea, you are probably the only guy to walk up to them.

I once befriended a group of girls at a club early in the night. They were a wedding party and there was about 10 of them looking to have a good time. I made out with at least 3 of them, gave relationship advice to one as she cried on my shoulder, and brought some of my buddies into the mix. Essentially got to know the group. I say this because these girls would then actually use me and my friends to get other creepy and ridiculous guys away from them. It became pretty natural by the end of the night. If you are a normal dude hanging out with a bunch of girls, all you need to do is be less creepy than the other guys that approach after you. It's like the advice "you don't have to be faster than the bear, just faster than the other guy."

Also cock-blocking is in your head. There was a suggestion in a self-help book I read that said, "Be a Reverse Paranoid." Essentially, think the world is out to do you good. In this situation, you could think to yourself, "Maybe her friends are encouraging her to date/sleep with someone because they think it has been long enough since her break up, and they want her to be happy again." Imagine that every girl in the group is a potential wing woman to help you score with her friend. Wing women are the best! haha.

Oh and SMILE! I don't care if you have a cheesy grin plastered on your face for no reason at all. Smiles help with everything from awkward breaks in the conversation, to your own sense of well being!
 
Girl here.

At a festival in February this year I was staring at a hot guy who caught me looking, held my gaze, and smiled back gently but confidently. It looked like he was thinking 'Yup. I could make you happy'. He couldn't come over, as he was working. I was with a group of friends, I knew if I went and talked to him I'd lose them in the crowd with no phone reception... i chickened out. Went back later in the day and he'd gone.

It's July and I'm STILL KICKING MYSELF.

So sure, go talk to her. But not before you've held her gaze, smiled a gentle smile, and stayed put long enough to let her know that you're not gonna come on strong and can handle hot girls looking at you. She might even come back over to you. She had already walked past to check you out!
 
dodoz123 said:
Aight guys, this is going to sound embarrassing on my part. I've probably been in this situation loads of times but never done anything about it ever.

There's a hot girl with her friends in the library. She keeps smiling at me and looking at me when I'm not looking me. She also passed by my desk to smile at me.

What do I do :P shes with her friends studying.

Any ideas :P
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Don't think too much.
And don't EXPECT ANYTHING.

Just say "hello". ;)
 
One trick I always use when picking up a girl is to give myself only 3 second to think and then just go and talk. I may say complete nonsense but, as long as I have fun, it doesnot matter. More than those 3 seconds, I end up bitching out and not doing anything. In your case, it seems that she was interested. Rather than come on nofap, you should have walked towards them and just interact with the group and then move over to that one girl. Plenty of fish in the ocean, man. You'll definitely find more occasion to approach. Remember this, never take any rejection personally. Have fun. When a girl rejects you, try to mock the situation, not the girl. You could say something like : "I am going to cry now. Bye." or something of that sort.
 
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