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Things Are Going Better With Women

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Deleted Account, Feb 4, 2019.

  1. Ra's Al Ghul

    Ra's Al Ghul Fapstronaut

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    Dang dude, I am jealous. You're officially a Turbo Chad.
     
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  2. Not just a regular Chad, but a Turbo Chad?!! Yes!!! :cool:
     
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  3. Meetup.com bookmarked...nice one
     
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  4. There's two girls from Meetup that I've seen a few times recently (they're friends), I asked them to attend a large event at the art museum tomorrow and they excitedly agreed! I am going to the event with a separate Meetup group. There will be hundreds of people there. I really like these events at the art museum, they have them once a month, each time is a different theme

    More banter/flirting with the girl from work today that I mentioned above

    Things seem to be slowly snowballing more in a positive direction. Last August is when I started to try to make an effort to get better with women. Man was that out of my comfort zone then. All kinds of resentment and sadness was coming out then. I cried a lot. Now things are much different. Somebody said that what helps is to have "reference experiences", things you can point to in your past as having been successes with women, which helps your confidence. Back in August, I did not have any such reference experiences. But in the time since, I've slowly accumulated more positive reference experiences that I can now remember with pride, and it really helps!
     
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  5. whatrichme

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    Congratulations!
    A lot in this post resonates and I have that "I can make a date out of this place" thing too.
    I have designed about 10 scenarios for now I plan to expand it to 20 or so as I ramp up experience.

    I recently got together with a girl but it doesn't stop me from interacting with more for a deeper understanding in women.
     
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  6. 0111zerozero11

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    What a fucking genius idea this meetup person came up with.

    Genius.
     
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  7. 0111zerozero11

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    On second thought, creeps be creepin, so idk....seems like it might have the potential to put someone in a bad situation if say, idk, patrick bateman was in some cute girl's math meetup, or whatever.

    But, a lot of situations could put you in contact with a patrick bateman type. Work, store, gym, online, etc...so.

    A genius idea with very real risks, is my final answer.
     
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  8. That's why it's much better to be Patrick Bateman in such a scenario, rather than the cute girl. Lesson: Be Patrick Bateman :D
     
  9. 0111zerozero11

    0111zerozero11 Fapstronaut

    Well, seems my post was accurate :emoji_shrug:

    You need to wear an at your own risk label while meeting at your meetups, meeting up potential mates you can play Hip to be Square, for :)
     
  10. Nice idea!
     
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  11. Went to the Meetup at the art museum tonight and then went to a Latin dance club after lol. I was feeling pretty good about the night except that I ran in to this guy friend that I haven't seen in several months that I went to the club with. I had previously told him about my lack of experience with women. So tonight every five seconds he was telling me to go talk to every girl in the club, go dance with every girl, telling me what I should do and say, without me asking for the help. I was really disappointed and really ANNOYED after a while. The thing is I did actually end up dancing with some girls at the club. Not well mind you. But I still did it, and so once more stepping out of my comfort zone and making progress. But this friend sort of ruined the night for me. Nothing ruins your confidence like being constantly reminded of how clueless you are or once were. I do believe he meant well, but still. I never should have told him about my girl problems. Lesson learned. Don't talk about your lack of experience with ANYONE in real life, only here. Ah well, still have to chalk the night up as a success. The dance club would be fun to return to

    And damn were the Latin bootys there. Thank God for my porn blocker. Without that, I'd be toast tonight lol
     
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  12. SpoonDog

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    SuperFurryThing I enjoy reading your updates, it's very positive stuff.

    I guess for some of us the hardest part would be turning up to one of these things for the first time when you don't know anyone.
     
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  13. Thanks

    Yeah I was always very antisocial, a loner, a homebody, so I've had to force myself to go to these Meetups. The first one I went to last year was a huge singles event with over 100 people and I didn't know anyone, it was intimidating but went OK. Now I actually prefer meeting people I don't know because I also don't like getting stuck in a clique where I know everyone. I'm weird but I really prefer being unattached
     
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  14. eveyr girl i have met so far has cringed with me.
     

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