Thinking of hiring an escort...

I was scared going to my first Meetup.com event. I knew no one. I was so scared I didn’t make it. I got lost, gave up, and went home. Took me months to try again.

I did try again even though I didn’t know anyone and now have met lots of cool people in the events I’ve gone to over the last few months.

I still say give Meetup.com a try.

 

The girls on the dating sites dont reply not because of your looks. I used to think that way. In fact women prefer guys who aren't model material cause those guys have 'player' written all over them.

This is the formula for getting girls on dating sites:
Your profile + what type of pictures you use. In that order of importance. Come up with a profile that shows you're intelligent, fun, witty and adventurous without using those words to describe yourself. Be creative. Use pictures that show you at outdoor locations like in front of a statue or at a theme park, not a selfie in your bedroom.

 

The people who are saying looks matter probably aren't dating.

If you wanna catch a girl's attention on dating sites you gotta post pictures of you showing you're adventurous, doesn't have to be a theme park. Why would a girl respond to a picture of a guy who never leaves his bedroom? Show you're doing shit, that you have a life, otherwise she wont wanna chase you. Simple.
And you convey who you are by implying it. If you say shit like "I am quite intelligent and witty and fun and hardworking" they're just gonna turn the page. Anyone can say that. SHOW you're those things through words.
Be humorous when you describe yourself, dont take yourself too seriously. google 'best male dating profiles' and bear in mind women aren't renowned for their sense of humor so what you consider cheesy, they'll probably think as clever and witty.
Instead of using adjectives to describe yourself say something like "I enjoy meaningful conversations rather than generic ones instead of saying "I'm a good conversationalist".
If you use adjectives after "I am..." make sure they're unusual like "mysterious and strange" but follow it up with humor like...I am mysterious and strange like the ingredients of the breakfast cereal you had this morning". So you're contrasting and she's thinking 'Okay this guys fun.'

I know it seems lame to guys but this shit works. Women think differently and on a dating site they base everything on the 'tone' of the profile, not what the guys is actually saying. If that makes sense.

 

As a woman, I can totally agree that what he's saying is true. We love humor & creativity. It totally matters. Also, good grammar

 

I think therapy would help you tremendously. If you're self-confidence and social anxiety are as bad as you say they are, then therapy is something you should strongly consider. If you don't fix those issues, then nothing is going to change for you. You'll always be lonely, because you don't think you can do better or you're too afraid to live outside your comfort zone.

I'm not trying to be mean or harsh. I was once like you. My social anxiety was beyond crippling. I couldn't look people eyes, I never spoke to a single person, and I was so lonely. I never left my room unless I had to. Was this way all the way through college. It took me years to get over it. Hell, I'm still not over it. I struggle with social anxiety every day, but I've learned to manage it for the most part.

I never saw a therapist for my problems, but I wish I had. Life would have been so much easier and better off. I'm planning on seeing a therapist soon, because I want / need to get over my issues. I don't want to waste my life away and miss out on great opportunities. I've already missed out on so much. Seeing a therapist is terrifying, but it will help you out in the long run. I urge you to at least think about it and give it a try.

 

If you have to see an escort, try to cold approach X numbers of girls (maybe 10, or 20) as a challenge. If you get rejected by ALL of them, then you could at least justify rewarding yourself with 1 hour of paid sex. Setting a difficult challenge that you’d have to do every time before seeing an escort, makes it less likely to develop into a habit or addiction. Just my two cents.

 

It's not worth it. You are only going to feel more isolated after deed is done. You are only 26 and your young. I would spend the money on a class. Learn a new language/ take a fitness class/ go to cooking class. Before you know it you will have a circle of new friends and a chance for a mate. I have gone on dating apps before and honestly these apps just fuck with your head. You are just swiping left and right and its literally like a Porn site where you are looking for the next best porn. Don't focus on being with the girl and everything will fall into place naturally. I would also delete social media for a while, you are probably comparing yourself to others and that's toxic.