Thinking of starting again

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by zx125, Aug 31, 2017.

  1. zx125

    zx125 Fapstronaut

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    Hi,
    I am on my longest steak of nofap. I have not m'ed in 9 months but recently I have started to think about starting again. I keep thinking about the pictures and the websites I used to go to when I was m'ting. I seem to be giving myself excuses such as its been such a long time and I need a break, I can start again.
    Any advice?
     
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  3. Abstain_for_gains

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    I think that is normal, but I think you shouldn't. Think of the 9 months ... at least 270 days going back to 0. You are doing a good job! Keep the count rising!
     
  4. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant

    I wouldn't relapse. Are you fully healed from this? If so, I would suggest going for sex instead. Sex is natural. M isn't natural.
     
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  5. For most people masturbation is a normal healthy party of life but for me it is too big a part. It is addictive. I say that because you know how you are and if it dominates you. or will allowing masturbation back into your life cause you to binge on porn. Only you can tell.
     
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  6. Asgardian36

    Asgardian36 Fapstronaut

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    Hi ZX125.

    Well i have not been PMO free for as long as you are (8 months and counting) but Ive had A couple of long streaks (3 months.) I can understand how you are feeling right now. My understanding is that I have had those feelings/justifications because I was just simply abstaining from PMO thats it. Doing no other shit like the stuff I've dreamed of doing, like learning new sport or new language and building relationships with other important people. I can tell you this as long as you are just abstaining from PMO, its no use brother. Go one step further, LIVE LIFE. DO the things you are passionate about.
     
  7. zx125

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    Well, I haven't got a girlfriend.
     
  8. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant

    Gotcha, bro!

    That's why stopping PMO has basically skyrocketed my desire to get a girlfriend! That's my motivation.

    Stay strong bro!
     
  9. paywithlawv

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    I just joined the site. im 31, doing porn on and off since i was in jr high. You and the other heavy weights are amazing, great to know that its possible.

    I think he was right when he said live your passion / do your passion!

    After all PMO ect is but a few moments.

    Your gonna end up with the partner of your dreams I bet, probably right around the corner bro.

    kick ass for your bros.
     
  10. Third_Eye

    Third_Eye Guest

    What if sex wasn't accessible at all.
     
  11. zx125

    zx125 Fapstronaut

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    Hi,
    well I have come very close to starting again, but I have resisted so far.
    I have been thinking about it, just one more time, my mind has been giving me every reason to start.
    By the way, I cant have sex because I haven't got a girlfriend, I so that makes it harder.
     
  12. Third_Eye

    Third_Eye Guest

    Sex shouldn't be your main priority, dude. Your main priority should be to reboot yourself before even acting on sex.
     
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  13. or masturbation, should not be a priority, for me.
     
  14. Third_Eye

    Third_Eye Guest

    Great idea.
     
  15. thank you, I am gonna get up and do something productive. (it is morning here) I need to stop thinking about mo and do something!! in 2 minute I will be out of the house. check on me if I am still on nofap.
     
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  16. Third_Eye

    Third_Eye Guest

    Just distract your mind from wanting to relapse. I'm on day 6 of no PMO, and all it took was self-motivation :)
    Just always think of something that motivates you to stop PMO.
     
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  17. I'm in same boat today
     
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  18. zx125

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    I came very close to relapsing last night. I was touching myself and thinking of the pictures I used to M to. Coming this close to starting has given me a renewed resolve to try to abstain for now.
     
    Last edited: Sep 16, 2017
  19. zx125

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    I was edging last night but I didn't climax. I was thinking about the pictures I used to M to before I started nofap. I feel disappointed in my self. It is so hard, even after 331 days. On one hand and I think just one more time wont hurt but then I feel guilty for thinking that.
     
  20. "Some men attempting the rebooting process believe that as long as they avoid ejaculation, they are successfully rebooting. This twisted logic leads them to endorse an unhelpful practice common to Internet porn users, called edging. This is masturbating up to the edge of orgasm, then stopping to cool things down, then revving up again." [Gary Wilson]

    https://yourbrainonporn.com/what-if-i-use-porn-without-orgasm

    Edging is worse than if you did climax. :oops: Time to reset I'm afraid. However, your effort to get this far is incredible: respect!
     
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