Last night I got a drink with a close friend of mine. Not just close friend -- one of my best friends. I have always been close with her, for many years. We experimented sexually with each other about a year ago, and despite the risks, we remained good friends. Last night, she opened up to me. And I, I opened up with her, too. She looked in my eyes and told me that something has changed about me. Maybe it was the eye contact I held or the deep interest I showed in her life, but why? Here's why: I wasn't focused on fucking her. I wasn't focused on "How can I turn this conversation into something sexual and stimulating?" Last night, I viewed this girl as an amazing human being with some of the most insanely beautiful thoughts, such an amazing disposition, and it occurred to me: is this what I have been missing all my life? When you give up porn, masturbation, and even the fucking THOUGHT of those entities, your brain and your emotions and feelings are able to FINALLY express themselves. I consider myself to be a manly man who takes no shit from nobody. I hit the gym hard, work my ass off, and do what's right, morally. But something was always suppressed when I let my addiction dictate where I allocated my sexual energy. Last night, I gained a huge insight that I want you to contemplate: Giving up your addiction is more than just ridding yourself of an unwanted feature. What nobody talks about is not what you lose, but what you gain. Sure, you lose the addiction. But what you gain is far more important. You gain an insight into yourself. You gain an opportunity to connect with people on a higher motherfucking level. You gain a solace and peace about yourself. You gain muscle in the gym. You gain endurance when you're studying or working. You gain friendships that are based off humanism and quality. So how do you keep yourself motivated to continue? Allow me to paraphrase something I once read: Fuck motivation. Motivation is a fickle and unreliable little ***** and isn't worth your time. It's better to cultivate discipline than rely on motivation. Force yourself to do things. Force yourself to get up out of bed and get to work. For yourself to change. Motivation is fleeting and it's easy to rely on because it requires no concentrated effort to get. Motivation comes to you - you don't even have to chase after it. Disciple is reliable, motivation if fleeting. The question isn't how to maintain your motivation. It's how to train yourself to work without it.