This is an Uncommon Success Story

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Sullyx, May 12, 2018.

  1. Sullyx

    Sullyx Fapstronaut

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    5 years ago, at the tender age of 16, I discovered to my horror that I couldn't get it up with a girl. I was humiliated, dejected, blablala... The moment I've waited for so long was ruined because of porn a addiction.

    I've tried many (MANY) times to recover since then but always relapsed. a year or two after my failed ''first time'' I had 2 more opportunities with girls where I still couldn't get it up despite having 30 day-ish streaks.

    Again, humiliated, dejected blablabla...

    I then decided to not try again until I had at least 90 days under my belt (It still haven't happened yet).

    So until recently, I declined every opportunities to have sex with a woman ( MANY opportunities. No bragging. Girls often say I'm very handsome and they never believe me when I say I never had a girlfriend. They assume I'm a fuckboy.)

    My mindset changed after I read this post:

    http://bestofnofap.blogspot.ca/2014/12/best-advice-for-rebooting.html?m=0

    After reading this post, I realized that life would not suddenly get better once I hit 90 days. Life would only get better if I got better. So I started to work on myself and I started to re-learn how to live. <----- (VERY IMPORTANT!)

    One of the best decisions of my life so far.

    I decided that I wouldn't let the fear of failure and embarrassment get the best of me. Nope. I decided that if the opportunity to have sex presented itself, I was going to take it knowing I probably wouldn't be able to get it up.

    Lo and behold, EXACTLY 5 years later, DAY FOR DAY from the time I was about to lose my virginity, I had successful sex. (Crazy how life works)

    And I relapsed 2 days ago btw.

    My dick was hard, albeit not rock hard and I ejaculated. (It took a loooong time tho so I know I have DE.)

    Anyway, I feel really good about myself. I'm proud that I trusted myself to go for it and now I am completely motivated to get rid of this bullshit for life.

    Have a nice day y'all.
     
  2. Is relapsing a win win game and is it a kind of success that you wanted.

    WE need leaders not advisors.
     
  3. JustinX

    JustinX Fapstronaut

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    I read some version of this article about 2 years ago and I really have to agree: it is the most influential and eye-opening article about porn addiction & recovery that I ever read.
     
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  4. Sullyx

    Sullyx Fapstronaut

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    I am not sure I understand what you wrote, but in no way am I advising people to follow my path. And If that's your question, then yes, it's the kind of success I wanted even though it's a partial one.

    My original goals with nofap were to be able to successfully have sex, heal my brain, and get back a healthy view of women (not objectifying them). All the self improvement goals like lifting, being independent, making money, etc came afterwards. They were a result of trying to get my life back from the deadly clasp of porn.

    So even though I can have sex now (which I won't be having until after 90 days or plus), my brain still needs to heal some more and I still need to stop reducing women to lips, tits, ass.

    Look, I don't have all the answers. I believe nobody does when it comes to noFap. What I encourage my fellow nofappers to do is to try their own methods and see what works. Create your own path. Lead yourself. Of course, follow the general advice and guidance of more experimented Fapstronauts. (Use common sense guys)

    Me relapsing 3 days ago and still having successful sex doesn't mean that I can watch porn again. This shit is destructive.

    I attribute my successful sex attempt to the fact that I've SIGNIFICANTLY reduced my porn consumption during the last 5 years. Going from pmo'ing 2-3 times a day to 2-3 times every 2 weeks is a major improvement. Most people here don't realize this. They only see in black and white. Relapse or no relapse. Success or failure. They forget about the grays. The subtle improvements.

    I also attribute my successful sex attempt to not being stressed at all since I was going to accept whatever the outcome was going to be.

    My goal for the last 5 years varied between going 90-365 days without porn and I always failed. The one time I decided to change my approach, I succeeded.

    I don't think it's a coincidence.
     
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