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This is getting hard. Iam out-of-control. Somebody please help

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Ichdiegross, Aug 19, 2015.

  1. Ichdiegross

    Ichdiegross Fapstronaut

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    Fuck man. It's been 6 days I have been completely down under. PMO has me in its grip. And it just wont let go. Iam trying but somehow I just convince myself to let it happy. And with every relapse,I get an incentive to relapse again. I feel bad. I feel like a loser. I feel like I was really bad in bed cause of this. The times I didn't,the sex was good. It's like,I have realised,doing bad things motivates you to keep doing them inspite of the guilt. Doing good things motivates you too,but only a little bit. It's like the good part of us is always testing us. I don't know what to do when Iam aroused. I just can't control myself. It's been a good 22 hours tho. It's like I have been given a time-out. Let's hope I bounce back.This is hard. But I don't get why I don't realise that I HAVE to do this. I don't want to be awkward and under-confident and bad in bed. I want to be an extrovert,confident and a zero guilt happy guy BUT COPING WITH THIS PMO THING IS REALLY HARD. I just don't know when I'll realise this. Maybe when I get ED I'll curse myself. Okay chuck. Now Iam going to stop with all this negativity. I was in a bad state cause of myself. It was another one of my down-under...out-of-control days because I LET IT HAPPEN. I have been given a time to breathe. Now Iam going to build on that. I plan on sleeping half-an hour early every night until I sleep at 11 or something. I want to be a morning person as my college is gonna start soon. And that's also a reason I want to quit PMOing. I need to be my not-down-under self. I love him so much more. It's like Iam a completely different person and Iam just so happy and confident and energetic. I can do this. I can make this right. And all my fapstronaut buddies out there,stay strong. Somebody please tell me what to do. Give me tips. All I do is watch netflix all day. Iam in LA right now and Iam with my parents. My college is in Buffalo and it starts on the 25th. I NEED to get 'sober' before that. Tips. Please. There are a lot of sex scenes in the sitcoms I watch like New girl and Breaking bad. But I just can't stop watching them. They are really good. Somebody please tell me how I can help myself. Iam confident that I will build on my lead but some advice would be really helpful. Stay strong
     
  2. sandwich77

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    Doing the best for ourselves/what would "really" make us happier I think is probably always more uncomfortable, but definitely worth it. I don't know if it's harder actually to do the truly happier option. Life is all about change. Resisting it, not just doing the happier option I think is actually harder - look at all you just wrote? Is it easier not doing it?

    I'll have to agree with you - coping with the no PMO thing "is" harder than not, or certainly uncomfortable. One thing that's helping me is I've realized that I really want to do a full reboot, I've wanted to for awhile - reset/relapsed tons of times. This time - I realized, if I really want to do this (I do) I should just do it - because if I don't, I'm just wasting my time and my life. And I've wasted so much of my life I feel already looking at porn and everything - that, what's 3 months out of it? For a full reboot? In the big picture, it's nothing. And aside from that - I just want to accomplish it - just to do it. The full thing. Mostly just so I can be able to say and prove to myself - this is a really difficult thing for probably most anyone. But it's far from impossible - people are doing and have done "way" longer than that on here.

    I don't really have any tips, there's a lot on here elsewhere, except to say - you can do it! It's not impossible. You're strong enough - and with resetting/relapsing - it's no good to beat ourselves up. Just the fact that we're trying to do this is really something in itself! Kind of a surreal thing to do - but certainly empowering on a deep level. Between money and the 18 days I got - I really dig my 18 days because "I" earned it, and it's not easy - it's an internal job. Aside from the addiction aspect, it's accepting my weaknesses and adjusting myself accordingly so I don't reset/relapse - and mind over matter.

    You can do it man! We can do it! Thing is, we're already winning *right now*. :) It'll be ok. Just keep trying and going forward and it's really inevitable that sooner or later you'll reach whatever goal you're wanting to.
     
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  3. I congratulate you OP, for actively trying to rid yourself of PMO's influence in your life. You've admitted that you have a problem, and you decided to take action. That's why you're here, on the site, posting in the forums.

    Knowledge of PMO addiction can help, there are tons of resources on this site alone. Knowing is half the battle, and with more knowledge on this addiction can help you with your reboot.

    I agree with the person above me, PMO addiction can be conquered. You've taken a big step in getting on this site and making a commitment to living a PMO free life. That's something.

    I've been viewing an old post here on NoFap for some guidance, perhaps it may help you along the way: http://www.nofap.com/forum/index.ph...get-tools-and-learn-to-love-withdrawals.2402/

    Keep strong brother, and I wish you success on your journey to becoming clean.
     
  4. Indian Rebootguy

    Indian Rebootguy Fapstronaut

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    Keep calm. Drink a glass of water . Inspire and expire deeply for 3 times . Forgive yourself . Reset . Move on.
     
  5. Ichdiegross

    Ichdiegross Fapstronaut

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    Thank you so much guys. This really helped. Like I can't thank you enough.
     

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