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I am 10 minutes in, and the first thing I'm terrified of is that I'm leaving the safety of porn. I feel like I am willingly giving up my security blanket. I have no idea what to do or what to concentrate on, because the "friend" that I've relied on is no longer there. HOW MESSED UP IS THAT??

Anyone else feel "scared" when they started?
 
Scared? Yes, of failure. I'm afraid I will fail and just disappoint myself. That I won't make the grade. Unfortunately this has caused me to not even try most of the time. Fear is always irrational for me.
 
I heard an awesome quote the other day about failure, on second thought it may be a little harsh: "A real loser is so afraid of winning, they don't even try". By NO MEANS am I saying anyone is a loser... it's just a powerful quote.

So what if you trip up and don't make it. You are still going to be alive and still face the same challenges you do right now. THE DIFFERENCE IS that you will have learned something about yourself. And you can use that something to get further the next time. The cool thing about failing and trying over again, it's like getting a sneak peek at the answer and then getting a do-over.

With each do-over you win because you know more than you did without trying, and you get to do it again.

How do you think you learned how to ride a bike after falling so many times???
 
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jurt5453 said:
I am 10 minutes in, and the first thing I'm terrified of is that I'm leaving the safety of porn. I feel like I am willingly giving up my security blanket. I have no idea what to do or what to concentrate on, because the "friend" that I've relied on is no longer there. HOW MESSED UP IS THAT??

Anyone else feel "scared" when they started?
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Sounds pretty normal to me. Alcoholics and drug addicts often express the same feeling. It makes perfect since. Your addiction is somethig that you have mostly viewed as something that wont hurt you, wont judge you.
 
And yeah I felt what you felt at first, but you are improving for the better by getting out of the trap. Leave it in your dust. You will not regret it.
 
Yeah, I can relate also, however I had it the other way around too.. feeling super excited about NoFap, finally getting rid of pmo !! However, then a week later the excitement fades aways, some stress happens and me start thinking of releasing the stress/anxiety through using pmo...
I mean.. thats pretty messed up i think, to use pmo to 'relieve stress' (have done that for years).. i now believe its natural that 'sexual energy' should be 'pure' and that to relieve stress should be done in different ways.. (like intense physical excercise)
 
VeganRights said:
Yeah, I can relate also, however I had it the other way around too.. feeling super excited about NoFap, finally getting rid of pmo !! However, then a week later the excitement fades aways, some stress happens and me start thinking of releasing the stress/anxiety through using pmo...
I mean.. thats pretty messed up i think, to use pmo to 'relieve stress' (have done that for years).. i now believe its natural that 'sexual energy' should be 'pure' and that to relieve stress should be done in different ways.. (like intense physical excercise)
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maybe it needs to be a balance... It becomes a problem when 40-60% of your day is spent on PMO though
 
jurt5453 said:
maybe it needs to be a balance... It becomes a problem when 40-60% of your day is spent on PMO though
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Agreed, however the less the better I would think. Also I dont see a problem with real intimacy, however pr0n and M are just emotionally totally void and it's just about some gratification... i think to really grow in life P & M won't help.. I'm going NoFap again ! :)
 
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