modernstore99
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Through my personal knowledge and experience, I am writing what I hope is a pretty good guide for those with PIED. A lot of the stuff on NoFap is theoretical, unrealistic, and unspecific for many, so I'm gonna give what I hope is a good map for understanding and defeating PIED.
What is PIED?
In short, PIED (Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction) is the inability to attain and hold erections for sexual pleasure; it is caused by the misuse of porn. Due to porn's hyper-arousing properties and other biological factors, your brain begins to overly associate feelings of sexual arousal with porn, and disassociate arousal, erections, and climax with real people. While porn becomes very arousing and consuming, regular people "aren't enough" anymore. It's like a drug addict moving to harder and harder drugs since the old ones don't have the same kick anymore. Reusing porn frequently and for long periods of time literally creates neurons in the sexual reward centers of the brain that are wired for porn, and allows those wired to people to wither and die. Additionally, non-sexual acts and senses associated with porn are related to sexual pleasure/function (touching yourself, being alone, looking at screens, not-moving, etc.), and the experiences felt during real sex become foreign and un-arousing (seeing someone naked, the tastes and smells of another person, thrusting/adjusting, etc.).
I am simplifying all this information from Your Brain on Porn (YBOP), which is the most-comprehensive collection of porn-related afflictions. Imo, it is better than NoFap in terms of actual information and data, and is definitely better than me lol. Check it out (https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/mis...-has-not-prepared-your-brain-for-todays-porn/)
How do I get rid of my PIED?
While everyone has different experiences, I have learned through YBOP and through my own dealings with PIED that there are three main steps. The exact parameters of each step vary from person to person, but understanding what they are will help you decide what you should do.
Step 1: The Reboot
For those that don't know, a reboot is a break from masturbation and sex, and allows your brain to "reset". The purpose of the reboot is to allow the neurons in your brain wired to porn to wither and die.
For getting rid of PIED, the best reboot is a 90 day Hard Mode. This means that for 90 days, you may not seek arousal in anything besides another human, you may not be stimulated sexually or sensually, and you cannot seek and accomplish orgasm. Neurons in your brain have to be activated frequently to stay fresh; if they are never activated, they eventually die, even if they're not replaced. The neurons wired to porn in your brain have connected:
However, studies have shown that engaging in sexual behaviors with partners that are not sexually stimulating are very beneficial in the long-run for PIED. Since arousal from a partner is not connected to the porn-wired neurons, it does not activate the neuron, allowing them to wither away. Actions like kissing, cuddling, sleeping together, and manual/oral pleasure on your partner have been shown to "sensitize" those with PIED, and prime you for sexual acts after the reboot. As long as the act does not include porn or sexually stimulating the individual with PIED, it is ok. This is not necessary for getting rid of PIED, but highly encouraged.
Step 2: Resensitization
Resensitization is engaging positive sexual behaviors with a partner after your reboot. The purpose of resensitization is to create neurons in your brain that are wired to sexual pleasure with a partner. The reboot is not the only step in getting rid of PIED, and imo is not even the most important one. After your reboot, your brain's sexual reward centers are a clean-slate. You have to start having sex and doing other sexual acts to create neurons in your brain wired to:
Since many guys aren't very erect the first few time after a reboot, the positions I recommend are missionary, spooning, and sometimes the "speed-bump" (girl on stomach, go in from behind). Most importantly, you don't need to have a 100% erection to do any of them; in missionary, most penises slide in and fit pretty well, and in the other two, the tightness makes it very pleasurable. They also require little movement; many guys with PIED have noticed that in positions where the waist is above the knees (doggy, standing, etc.) they cannot stay very hard. This is because these positions allow blood to flow from the crotch to the legs (which need extra blood for the exertion), and the large muscular movements in the crotch area often interfere with the muscles that cause erections. However, this goes away after about 2 months of consistent sex.
In general, after the reboot, start having sex, and keep doing it until it feels really good. Then just keep doing it lol
Step 3: Healthy Sexual Lifestyle
If you are having consistent sex with your partner with at least 9/10 erections, your PIED is gone. However, it is very possible for it to come back though. The purpose of a healthy sexual lifestyle is to set up behaviors and situations that will make it harder for porn to cause your PIED again.
These behaviors include, but are not limited to, ...
Beginning a sexual lifestyle that pushes you away form porn will make it harder for PIED and porn addiction to come back if you ever fall into the trap of porn again. Having great sex with a partner, having little time for porn, and just being overall happy makes it very hard for porn to affect you again.
If you have questions just hmu. I went through all of this as well; I went from being unable to achieve any erection at all while in bed with a girl to having sex 2-3 times a week with a very very very hard dick. The highlights of the path were:
The best place for me on my journey was YBOP. It is all curated by sex addiction and PIED experts, and has the best information. Good luck. You can get rid of this
What is PIED?
In short, PIED (Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction) is the inability to attain and hold erections for sexual pleasure; it is caused by the misuse of porn. Due to porn's hyper-arousing properties and other biological factors, your brain begins to overly associate feelings of sexual arousal with porn, and disassociate arousal, erections, and climax with real people. While porn becomes very arousing and consuming, regular people "aren't enough" anymore. It's like a drug addict moving to harder and harder drugs since the old ones don't have the same kick anymore. Reusing porn frequently and for long periods of time literally creates neurons in the sexual reward centers of the brain that are wired for porn, and allows those wired to people to wither and die. Additionally, non-sexual acts and senses associated with porn are related to sexual pleasure/function (touching yourself, being alone, looking at screens, not-moving, etc.), and the experiences felt during real sex become foreign and un-arousing (seeing someone naked, the tastes and smells of another person, thrusting/adjusting, etc.).
I am simplifying all this information from Your Brain on Porn (YBOP), which is the most-comprehensive collection of porn-related afflictions. Imo, it is better than NoFap in terms of actual information and data, and is definitely better than me lol. Check it out (https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/mis...-has-not-prepared-your-brain-for-todays-porn/)
How do I get rid of my PIED?
While everyone has different experiences, I have learned through YBOP and through my own dealings with PIED that there are three main steps. The exact parameters of each step vary from person to person, but understanding what they are will help you decide what you should do.
Step 1: The Reboot
For those that don't know, a reboot is a break from masturbation and sex, and allows your brain to "reset". The purpose of the reboot is to allow the neurons in your brain wired to porn to wither and die.
For getting rid of PIED, the best reboot is a 90 day Hard Mode. This means that for 90 days, you may not seek arousal in anything besides another human, you may not be stimulated sexually or sensually, and you cannot seek and accomplish orgasm. Neurons in your brain have to be activated frequently to stay fresh; if they are never activated, they eventually die, even if they're not replaced. The neurons wired to porn in your brain have connected:
- porn and other arousing media, objects, and situations
- masturbation/stimulation
- orgasm
However, studies have shown that engaging in sexual behaviors with partners that are not sexually stimulating are very beneficial in the long-run for PIED. Since arousal from a partner is not connected to the porn-wired neurons, it does not activate the neuron, allowing them to wither away. Actions like kissing, cuddling, sleeping together, and manual/oral pleasure on your partner have been shown to "sensitize" those with PIED, and prime you for sexual acts after the reboot. As long as the act does not include porn or sexually stimulating the individual with PIED, it is ok. This is not necessary for getting rid of PIED, but highly encouraged.
Step 2: Resensitization
Resensitization is engaging positive sexual behaviors with a partner after your reboot. The purpose of resensitization is to create neurons in your brain that are wired to sexual pleasure with a partner. The reboot is not the only step in getting rid of PIED, and imo is not even the most important one. After your reboot, your brain's sexual reward centers are a clean-slate. You have to start having sex and doing other sexual acts to create neurons in your brain wired to:
- arousal because of another human being
- stimulation from penetration and other sex acts
- orgasm
Since many guys aren't very erect the first few time after a reboot, the positions I recommend are missionary, spooning, and sometimes the "speed-bump" (girl on stomach, go in from behind). Most importantly, you don't need to have a 100% erection to do any of them; in missionary, most penises slide in and fit pretty well, and in the other two, the tightness makes it very pleasurable. They also require little movement; many guys with PIED have noticed that in positions where the waist is above the knees (doggy, standing, etc.) they cannot stay very hard. This is because these positions allow blood to flow from the crotch to the legs (which need extra blood for the exertion), and the large muscular movements in the crotch area often interfere with the muscles that cause erections. However, this goes away after about 2 months of consistent sex.
In general, after the reboot, start having sex, and keep doing it until it feels really good. Then just keep doing it lol
Step 3: Healthy Sexual Lifestyle
If you are having consistent sex with your partner with at least 9/10 erections, your PIED is gone. However, it is very possible for it to come back though. The purpose of a healthy sexual lifestyle is to set up behaviors and situations that will make it harder for porn to cause your PIED again.
These behaviors include, but are not limited to, ...
- consistent sex, with a monogamous partner or temporary ones
- a life that includes interactions with people you are interested in sexually, even if you are not trying to have sex with them
- replacing time spent with porn/masturbation with a very beneficial activity (exercise, socializing, cooking, etc.)
- getting rid of sexual paraphernalia, especially items that may be part of a fetish
- not spending much time in the place you used to masturbate (except for sleeping)
- masturbating at most once a week between sex with partners, and of course...
- NO PORN
Beginning a sexual lifestyle that pushes you away form porn will make it harder for PIED and porn addiction to come back if you ever fall into the trap of porn again. Having great sex with a partner, having little time for porn, and just being overall happy makes it very hard for porn to affect you again.
If you have questions just hmu. I went through all of this as well; I went from being unable to achieve any erection at all while in bed with a girl to having sex 2-3 times a week with a very very very hard dick. The highlights of the path were:
- the 90 day reboot (no arousing media/objects, no masturbation)
- during the reboot I spent a lot of time with my girlfriend, acclimated myself to her (kissing, cuddling, etc.), and focused on her sexual pleasure
- consistent sex with my girlfriend after the reboot, even though I wasn't very hard and it didn't feel so good at first
- avoiding porn and masturbation
The best place for me on my journey was YBOP. It is all curated by sex addiction and PIED experts, and has the best information. Good luck. You can get rid of this