This makes me insecure.

I cannot see a clear view of how I will get out what I am attracted to in real life but I do online. That is the weirdest sentence on this forum, I know.
What I mean is I can remove this addiction. I know I can. But after a period of time into my reboot and when I've relapsed the same thought always strikes me.

I am naturally attracted to fit women or women that loves to work out. I know this because I've been turned on by that long before I even started fapping or watching porn etc.

But what makes me unsure about this "the other side" thingy is that. What my other side is and always has been is something I am very insecure about actually getting. Because the kind of girls that I like is... well. Basically they look for the hugh muscle hulks etc. Not me. And thats what makes me wonder, is it even worth going to the other side if that side isn't that much brighter.

I'm not sure how to really explain this in a way you guys will understand but I hope you got some clarity out of it. Ask if something is unclear.

 

Aye, only problem is I've been hitting a gym for almost 6 years (popular one) and I'm in decent shape.
I look at the gym as a place to work out, not hook up with women.

 

Yes but what he means is that fit women are attracted to fit men so go to the gym and get fit. Fit women will naturally be attracted to you if they are into fit men as you think. Fit women will be attracted to you anywhere, not just the gym.

I would also add that you can only attract what you think you deserve. If you think fit women are somehow better than you or are not going to want to date you then you are right! Change your attitude and your self esteem about women. We are just people looking for love. Maybe a fit woman who just wants a beef cake isn't the type of woman you'd want anyway.

 

Good point. I can get any woman I want whether she is a NPC competitor or just a powerlifter.
No like you said, a female bodybuilder is probably attracted to male bodybuilders and a fitness chick probably dates a male bodybuilder for other reasons than hes charming personality.
Thank you for opening that part up.