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Yeah, that's really tough. There's no doubt that trying to end a porn addiction is hard. For the record, there are a few women in this forum area in the same boat. Porn addiction is not a male-only problem. To be frank, after I learned about porn addiction and joined nofap Reddit first, I had no clue that women can have this addiction too. I can guarantee that in these forums, you will be respected and accepted. Unfortunately, with this addiction, there are a few other things besides PMO that we need to give up. Sexting is one of those. I have a question. How does a woman do the NNN? Far as I know, women don't "nut". Just curious. Finally, don't be down on yourself or hating yourself. That won't help. What you can do instead is try to understand what caused the failure and figure out what you can do to avoid another relapse and try again. For some, it's a neverending battle. I don't really understand but I've been 19 days, with no relapsed, and I've been able to deal with the urges. When you relapsed, were you looking at porn and getting off? I would seriously limit my access to porn before you try again. What I did before I started nofap was I deleted all my porn websites bookmarks off my laptop AND my phone. I never collected anything pornographic so there wasn't anything to delete there. I also put a porn blocker on my phone and laptop. I should tell you I'm a guy so I don't know what a girl with porn addiction goes through. I hope some of this will help in some way. One final thing. When I do get serious urges, I come to this forum and read other peoples' stories and try to offer advice. I also go to the nofap subreddit and do the same there. Sorry about writing a book which I didn't mean to do.

 

I suspected that was what happened when women participate in NNN. Thanks for the clarification. I, too, follow the NoFap Reddit as well. Lately, I'm more here than there because I set up those new posts and comments get sent to my email. (I forget what that is called) All those things you did to give yourself a better chance of success are wonderful. They will surely help. There are free porn blocks that you can find online. I got one for my phone from the Google Play Store. I got an extension for Google Chrome to prevent me from surfing to porn sites and I got that from the Chrome Web Store. If I can't use my browser to go to porn sites, then that's good enough for me. I would HIGHLY recommend you unjoin ALL porn subreddits even the ones that offer recordings of sex. Then go to user settings, then go to Feed Settings, Click below where it says Adult where it says "Enable to view adult and NSFW (Not Safe For Work) Feed or Search, turn that off and also right below, scroll down below where it says "Safe browsing mode" and click on the switch where it says "Blur thumbnails and media preview for anything labeled NSFW". That way if something pornographic gets by the first switch, you won't be able to see it because it will be blurred. I would also suggest that EITHER you go to your Google preferences and put on SafeSearch so it doesn't show you anything pornographic when you go to search something OR change your search engine to Swisscows, a family-friendly no-porn search engine. Even if you TRY to search for something pornographic, Swisscows won't display it. Swisscows (I know, it's a funny name for a search engine) is found at swisscows.com. I've been using it for about a week and a half and it does almost everything that Google does. Other than this, find an activity you can to instead of masturbating. I have self-help books I read and I interact with people on Facebook. I've been busier than normal lately because of some political work I'm doing online - all voluntary work not a paid position. By the way, something else that works is defining for yourself WHY you want to stop watching porn and stop masturbating. I'm doing no PMO because my partner has become very hurt knowing I do this. She told me two years ago I was porn addicted but I wasn't ready to hear it. I did hear her though and about a month ago, I started doing research into porn addiction. I found several subreddits that talk about this. There is nofap and there is porn addiction and there is loveafterporn. All of these subreddits talk about porn addiction and the effects it has on a relationship. I didn't even know if it was a real thing. Quitting porn was easy once I learned about the laws being broken behind the scene: rape, kidnapping, and human trafficking. I want no part in these continuing. Also, my addiction damaged my relationship with my partner very badly and I want to have an opportunity to repair it, if possible. For full disclosure, my porn addiction has taken place over 30 years and I've been in a relationship with my partner for 13 years. I'm a prostate cancer survivor and had surgery to remove my prostate. They promised the surgery would be nerve-sparing. Unfortunately, there were complications and they damaged the nerves leaving me with what appears to be permanent ED. I've tried pills, injections, just about everything but a penile implant. Now, my partner is post-menopausal and has no libido. She also suffers from depression and agoraphobia. We haven't had sex in about a decade. So, I'm done with porn, and eventually, after my reboot, I will probably return to masturbating but in moderation. After 30 years of being addicted to porn, even though I stopped looking at porn, I still have porn images in my head that I need to erase, if possible. Remembering porn videos in my head while masturbating is as bad as doing it WHILE looking at porn. That will be a bigger challenge for me. I really hope you get successful in e eliminating porn addiction Good luck and post here for relapses and successes.

 

Abstaining from porn is the first success. After that avoiding dirty talk and dirty texting with the opposite sex is a challenge for some people like me. We both are suffering from the second one as well. I am trying to avoid the second one as well. Thanks for sharing your experience. I am also facing the same problem.

 

Porn is never an answer, never a solution, regardless of your sex. It only makes thing worse, even though in a fleeting moment it seems like the ultimate answer, it is a lie. Stay strong