This we should come to terms with.

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by DarkSektur, Jun 24, 2018.

  1. DarkSektur

    DarkSektur Fapstronaut

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    1) Being successful at NoFap doesn't necessarily mean you will be successful in life. PMO is one of the many obstacles to living life to the fullest and NoFap eliminates PMO only. Once PMO is eliminated, you get to live a life that can't be hindered/affected by PMO.

    2) PMO hinders memory and intellect and causes emotional problems. To fully know these problems, check my topic on POST ACUTE WITHDRAWAL SYNDROME. Only time and abstinence can solve these problems. Supplements, exercise, brain puzzles and meditation can't reverse or eliminate the mental and emotional effects. They only work for a normal brain whose receptors and prefrontal cortex are not dysfunctional. That's if they work at all.

    3) Your battle with PMO will be life long. Keeping a six year streak doesn't mean that the urges won't come around. Good news is that you can manage the addiction and be successful in your abstinence till you die. The longer you've stayed away from PMO, the lesser the influence and grip the urges will have on you. It can get to the extent that when the urges come, you can dismiss them like you dismiss the existence of unicorns.

    4) Continuing from (2), the mental and emotional impact of PMO can last for many months to two years. Mine lasted eighteen months. It might seem it's constant and won't leave but it will leave. As far as these symptoms are concerned, PMO is similar to cocain, marijuana, alcohol, hard drugs, cigarettes, pain killers etc. This is the post acute withdrawal syndrome.

    5) You might be tempted to doubt your symptoms because the public, scientific consensus and experts don't agree that PMO can cause these symptoms. Well, we know better. You can't depend on doctors to treat your disorders because doctors don't understand and won't agree with you in the first place about the cause of your symptoms. Sounds crazy but it's true.

    6) NoFap shouldn't be about getting or asking a girl out and having great sex but about being a better and productive person to yourself and society. Nobody is great for getting a girl laid but making great contribution to the society and yourself. If you do NoFap for a lady, when she breaks up with you, you will most likely relapse. So please let's set our priority straight.

    7) For many, PMO can make you a loser in life. For everyone, it will make sure you don't live up to your full potential. You might be successful carreer and financial wise, but you could be better, much better.

    8) Many experts, professors and doctors can't be relied upon to help or inform you about the nature of this addiction. A lot of politics and lobbying are probably going on to maintain the positive publicity of porn and masturbation.

    ...... to be continued
     
    Last edited: Sep 19, 2018
  2. wtbootb

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    I don't like this point of view. My motivation mainly comes from my desire to be better with people and girls - now especially the one I like. Thanks to that I started hanging out with my friends on parties in clubs and finally fell in love. Rejection is a part of life, you won't make any progress if you are scared someone might break up with or don't like you in the future.
     
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  3. DarkSektur

    DarkSektur Fapstronaut

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    You misunderstood me. I am not trying to imply that we should be afraid of rejection or that we shouldn't date. All I am saying is that being a better and productive person should be the motivation to do NoFap. Being a better and productive person won't stop you from dating besides, you are all you've got and you will always be with yourself through thick and thin. Given that the future and human beings are unpredictable, It might happen, as it has to many NoFap members, that the girl (your reason for doing NoFap) you love breaks up with you or cheats on you, what's going to happen then? Many become heartbroken and relapse since the motivation is gone but if they had let themselves be their motivation, they would easily move on.

    You are guaranteed to always stick to yourself and desire personal improvement but the stranger you met in a club or wherever and fall in love is not. Relationships are not guaranteed to last. Why not let your desire to improve yourself be a motivation? As you improve yourself, girls will come instead of you pushing it. Objectively, personal improvement is the best motivation.
     
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  4. Kimpossible9

    Kimpossible9 Fapstronaut

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  5. DarkSektur

    DarkSektur Fapstronaut

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    Nice I could help.
     
  6. Nadamotain

    Nadamotain Fapstronaut

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    DarkSektur makes the point I need to keep aware of. I am responsible for my happiness. Not my wife. Not DarkSektur. Only me.
    I didn't believe that for most of my life. Consequently everyone EXCEPT me had me by the huevos. Now I can be happy all day, even when I'm not happy. This is a good time to be alive!
     
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