Hey guys, I've found this advise very useful for approaching anxiety. I spent almost all of the past year watching 2 girls (one that works at my gym and one that works at my college's library) that I really really really wanted to talk to. This year, I've talked to both of them, I introduced myself and have become more confident. But why did I became able to talk to girls? I used a not at all new technique which has been misunderstood for a long time. I'm not going into generals about social anxiety because I already did it in another post, you can check it out here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/the-harsh-truth-about-social-anxiety.153354/ But, going back to that advise that we've all had heard or read at least once and it is: worst case scenario. Everyone has heard the phrase "what's the worst thing that could happen?" which can be answered in many ways, but there is just one correct answer if the question is "what's the worst thing that could happen if I talk to that cute girl?". I want you to think very thoroughly of your answer to that question. Some will say something simple as "she says no", people who think more dramatically may think "she laughs at me", I'm guessing guys who think like Charlie Harper or Barney Stinson will say "she says yes and then marries you and cuts your balls, so you stop being happy forever". Think about this scenario: you're on the gym and see a hottie, you go talk to her and just say "hi", she looks at you from top to bottom and starts laughing, she then goes around telling everybody that you approached her and they all start laughing at you, you're not going to the gym again. Wait, but that isn't it. Those guys go tell everyone in school about it and the whole school laughs at you and say mean things. Maybe they go to the place you work and your boss not only thinks you're patethic but he also fires you because of that approach. You then go home and your family laughs at you. The news report that there's this pathetic guy who tried to approach a hottie at the gym and you can never show your face to the outside world again. News flash: that doesn't happen. How do you know? Everyone has their own goddam problems to be focusing on a guy hitting on a girl, an event that happens every minute of every day in the whole freaking world. You're not the only person who is afraid of social interaction, there are literally millions of guys just like you, who get nervous when they want to approach someone. Now, back to the question. I know most of you thought either she says no or she laughs at you. That's not really worst case scenario, the actual answer to the question "what's the worst thing that could happen if I talk to that cute girl?" is... you don't. That's right, the worst case scenario is you don't talk to her. She might like you back, she might be your new gf, she might give you some great new life experiences. Hell, she might be THE ONE. But, how could you know if you don't approach her? This is the truth guys: we LIVE in the worst case scenario. Remember guys, women are human beings and they also feel scared and insecure. Maybe she's even more insecure than you, maybe she's more excited than you are when you approach her. So, when you spot a girl you like and you start feeling scared, nervous, panicking, NEVER think you can't do it, because you can, nor think you'll do it tomorrow, because tomorrow you'll think the same thing and eventually tomorrow will become forever. Acknowledge your fear, remember which is the actual worst case scenario, think about a best case scenario which will also encourage you, and remember that just saying "Hi, my name is..." means success. If it starts going fine and the conversation flows your success is bigger, if you get her number/facebook/instagram your success is bigger, if you have sex with her your success is huge. Go with baby steps, introduce yourself and you're already in. If she says no, you already hit success just by approaching her, now it's time for the next girl with whom you have (in raw stats) a 50/50 chance of hitting it on. It's a numbers game, think about this: Ty Cobb has the all-time record for batting average in MLB which is .366, that means out of ten baseballs he only hit 3 or 4. Good luck guys.