Thoughts of visiting escorts

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by lonercub, Jan 3, 2018.

  1. lonercub

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    Are there people here who have visited escorts?

    I read online that a lot of people end up regretting the whole thing and it is quite a disappointment.

    Do you guys believe that are fantasies are mostly illusory and once in the act we would find it unsatisfactory and perhaps even sickening?

    It would be nice to hear from other Fapstronauts who went down that route and we regretful of it. I am asking for people who are single. And also with regards to the disappointment if any, even if the escort was the girl of your dreams and the fantasy act was carried out to the letter, yet you found it wasn't really great.

    I am having this temptation lately, but would rather hear from others.

    Perhaps discussing this will make the temptation go away.

    Thanks,

    Lonercub
     
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  2. ..Anna..

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    Sorry for getting into your topic as I am not a male, but from my acquaintances who went that route it was quite opposite- they started and now they regret it, because they can't stop, even with the wives besides them. I think it is just the escalation of porn and once that barrier is crossed, harder to get into healthy mind set back. One of them can't get off from the normal sex, because all that prostitute process gives bigger kick, how he told me- you chose which candy you want, you get pleasure with bargaining and getting to know how far she can go with the money you offer, etc.
     
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  3. Onehope

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    From personal experience...

    I paid for sex a couple of times from a girl who needed money badly. She would do anything, even for 5 dollars.

    What I experienced might have been fun in the moment, but afterwards you feel like shit.

    She takes your money and walks away, she doesn't care about you at all, and it begins to take its toll on your emotions.


    You see, for what I long for is a meaningful relationship, with someone who cares, who loves me.

    Having sex for money is not so different than masturbating, you cum and she leaves, you feel empty, you feel lonely.

    I think most of us are on nofap to get better and perhaps be in a real relationship in the long run, or those who are already in a relationship to restore it

    Escorts are just there to get paid, they won't remember you the next day, and you'll still be alone.
     
  4. Rob_B_

    Rob_B_ Fapstronaut

    Wow. All I can say, after reading some of these comments, is - I sure am glad I've never had to resort to hookers. Almost makes PM'ing seem like a good idea, in comparison...
     
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  5. ControlV

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    Yes my friend. Much better pleasure and you save a lot of money. Unless you find a needle in a haystack. Also you avoid the risk of catching something ,etc
     
  6. Rob_B_

    Rob_B_ Fapstronaut

    Just for the record, so we're clear, my comment wasn't intended to approve let alone promote PM, only to say that sex-for-money sounds if possible even more vile.
     
  7. im_alive

    im_alive Fapstronaut

    whats her number @Onehope? Only joking of course!

    Please don't go there @lonercub - I've been there and still class myself as addicted to it. I've spent 1,000s and it's very difficult to stop. There is always one more type of girl you havn't seen, or one thing you have never done before. Like porn there is always more of a dopamine rush you can get.

    And it's never as good as you picture it in your mind before you get there.
     
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  9. LavaMe

    LavaMe Fapstronaut

    If you aren’t too far gone you will find that after the act you are ashamed. It is just like PMO in that way. If you don’t notice the shame then you are in a much worse place. Either way you will be hurting yourself. You will be seeking happiness from an act that will not give it to you.
     
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  10. Peter_123

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    I had visited escorts once or twice. In my opinion they are the irl version of porn: its easy to get addicted and you feel (at least I felt) like shit afterwards. One need to be careful and pay attention to a lot of things if he decides to visit escorts. Fortunately or unfortunately I didn't get addicted to escorts because I was more addicted to porn =/
     
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  11. wakingthelionsinme

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    Sad as it may be, back on my 24th birthday, my dad took me to the worst section of the city for a hooker. I realized what I was getting into and I was regretting it the whole time. Never got one, luckily. They thought we were cops since we were both in leather jackets LOL
     
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  12. WackinWolf

    WackinWolf Fapstronaut

    This has been like bleach on my brain for the past couple of days, I'm having the same thoughts. I just want to get rid of my virginity and it makes me mad to constantly hear people who lost their virginity say it was no biggie. I guess I should say luckily I don't have a story to contribute but peoples answers do interest me. I mentioned living in Nevada on some other forums and how prostitution is legal, good thing for me is I'm too poor at the moment to make stupid decisions, yet I'm worried once I get money the idea will leach it's way back into my head.
     
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  13. Themadfapper

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    Don't waste your money. It's a bad deal. In retrospect, I would not do it again if they were paying me.

    @WackinWolf. You don't have a virginity unless you're a woman. There is no change other than wondering what the fuck the big deal was about?
     
  14. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    You can't turn a Ho into a Housewife.
     
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  15. wakingthelionsinme

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    As far as the topic of virginity goes, watching this put my mind at ease
     
  16. thorswrath32

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    I think people assume it is going to be like regular sex with a girlfriend but the difference is rather than someone to make love to and be intimate with, a prostitute sadly is just something to masturbate into. I've never gone as far as hiring an escort although i did think about it a lot and browse escort pages and wonder what it would be like? I'm glad i never went through with it because apart from the fact its bad sex, it's also going to leave a big hole in your pocket. I do know a couple of people who have tried it and they definitely regretted it, my friend told me it is like having sex with a robot, there is no real emotion to talk of, which of course if you think about it makes sense, since these women have to do it multiple times a day and they learn to just switch off emotionally from the process. You are paying someone to tell you things you want to hear and i reckon a lot of working girls have zero respect for their clients and think most of them are just dirty creeps. When you visit a prostitute you are fueling a sex traficking industry which makes money out of the pain and suffering of others. If you just wanted sex then it would be better to have a one night stand but that is easier said than done, or ultimately try and go on a few dates and actually meet someone you enjoy spending time with and given a bit of time and patience, if it's meant to be then you could have an intimate relationship.
     
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  17. culion

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    "I'm glad i never went through with it because apart from the fact its bad sex, it's also going to leave a big hole in your pocket".
    There are prostitutes that love their job, I've had good and "bad" experiences with prostitutes, by "bad" is that i didn't enjoyed much because it was the experience I didn't wanted. But other person can enjoy that experience I didn't liked. I think prostitution is cheaper than marriage and relationships.

    "I do know a couple of people who have tried it and they definitely regretted it, my friend told me it is like having sex with a robot, there is no real emotion to talk of, which of course if you think about it makes sense, since these women have to do it multiple times a day and they learn to just switch off emotionally from the process."
    More generalization, there are prostitutes that love their job. And sounds like your friend didn't pay for a Girlfriend Experience which is a more interpersonal experience rather than the focus being primarily on sex.

    "i reckon a lot of working girls have zero respect for their clients and think most of them are just dirty creeps".
    What do you mean by dirty creeps? Creeps are rapists, pedophiles, public exhibitionist, non consensual voyeurism.

    "You are paying someone to tell you things you want to hear".
    No, the prostitute has the control of what to do or what not. Consensus.

    "When you visit a prostitute you are fueling a sex traficking industry which makes money out of the pain and suffering of others".
    One thing is prostitution other is sex trafficking, very different, and has to be separated and not directly linked to prostitution. I'm opposed to sex trafficking. Not every prostitute is forced to do it.

    "I think people assume it is going to be like regular sex with a girlfriend but the difference is rather than someone to make love to and be intimate with, a prostitute sadly is just something to masturbate into."
    "If you just wanted sex then it would be better to have a one night stand but that is easier said than done, or ultimately try and go on a few dates and actually meet someone you enjoy spending time with and given a bit of time and patience, if it's meant to be then you could have an intimate relationship."
    You are idealising romantic love with this comments. "Sex work doesn't devalue people. People devalue sex work. Sex work doesn't traumatize people. People traumatize sex workers." [email protected]
     
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  18. thorswrath32

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    I used to think like you but i've educated myself about the issue from other perspectives. I think separating prostitution from sex trafficking is short sighted and naieve because they are very closely linked, i would recommend watching the documentary 'Nefarious' on Vimeo to get a different understanding of the sex trade which hasn't got rose tinted glasses on.

    Saying that sex work doesn't traumatise people is ridiculous, i'm sure there are a few women or men who decide that sex work is for them and maybe they do enjoy it but from what i understand that is the exception not the rule. You can never be 100% sure you are not supporting a ruthless pimp or funding a damaging drug habbit when you use a prostitute, especially if their price range is on the lower end of the spectrum. Additionally to that, the fatality rate of prostitution is amongst the highest globally of any profession except being in military service in a war zone, this is due to things like violence, drug overdoses, diseases. You just have to read the accounts of women and men who have left prostitution to understand what it was really like for them and it's empathy that helps me personally to think twice about deciding whether or not to hire one, something which i have had to learn the hard way by making mistakes in my life.

    I understand that part of the problem is the practice of making it illegal in the first place, because that by default attracts people with ill intent who will exploit and manipulate women. Making it legal would offer more protection to women and make help easier to access without the fear of shame. However to deny that prostitution is not linked with sex trafficking currently is crazy. It's an extremely dangerous thing for women to get involved in and i don't believe for one minute that most of them when they were younger went to their careers advisor to say 'when i'm older i want to be a prostitute' there are circumstances and events in someones life that propel them towards prostitution most of them not nice ones. for example being abused as a child, being hooked on class A drugs, being forced or coerced by a partner, or simply being desperate or destitute and broke. When people sleep with prostitutes they are saying 'i'm OK with that' because 'i'm getting what i want' and she's just 'doing her job' being blissfully ignorant helps people to justify their actions.
     
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  19. SuperFan

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    I would suggest that most fantasies are better and more exciting in the imagination than they ever are in reality. But that's just me.

    I never visited an escort because for me, my sex addiction has always been about validation and being desired. But if I'm paying for it, it ruins that--I know she's there for the money, not because she wants my body.

    And thank God, too, because if you want to talk about an addiction that can destroy your finances ...
     
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  20. rishi123

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    i slept with around 30 prostitutes in a span of 2-3 years...........let me tell you, going to prostitute makes you cheap and makes you lose self respect....you realise once sex finishes, there is nothing greater in it...you lose motivation in life...mens motivation is earn hard and get a beautiful wife....in future you lose interest with wife on sex.......you may even carry diseases.....infact visiting prostitutes can also become sex addiction..................get a good girlfriend instead
     

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