Three Circles and Honesty

I'm writing this post to talk about how it's so important to have honesty and an open heart when dealing with the three circles of Sex Addicts Anonymous. For those who don't know the three circles, it basically goes like this:

Inner Circle: behaviors we consider to be "acting out" that we want to abstain from (in mine: escorts, strip clubs, massages, PMO)
Middle Circle: slippery behaviors that may lead to inner circle activities (in mine: cruising, adderall, alcohol, weed, isolation, etc.)
Outer Circle: healthy behaviors that are an alternative to destructive inner/middle circle activities (mine: lifting weights, being with friends, walks in nature, coloring, listening to audiobooks, etc.)

What changed for me is that I tried to fool myself into thinking PMO was in my outer circle, as it prevented me from acting out (eventually I realized it doesn't), and most recently alcohol and weed. I thought those were unrelated to acting out, because I didn't want to step. But it was after some pretty strong temptations and almost PMOing last night that I realized they are hurting rather than helping me.

Keep honest, keep humble, keep your mind/heart open.

Stay strong everyone!

 

will do!