Three ideas which motivate you to abstain.

Hello there, dear habitants of NoFapia,

Since I relapsed, I wondered what three ideas are most effective to abstain from PMO, which deconstruct desire and show its absurd. I would be grateful if you would write three main thoughts that always help you to avoid relapse. This topic is only about thoughts, not tools. Thank you very much!

1) Appeal to higher "I" and my ideals.
2) The urge is a friend, not an enemy. I must use this vital power for good.
3) Comparing the yield to productivity: It will last only a few seconds and I won't have the desire to do it again, but I will lose an hour or two.

 

1) No turning back, I can't "control" it, like and alcholist can have "just a beer" I can't have "just a session"
2) It will increase my anxiety and my shame
3) It make me lose interest in studying

 

Thank you very much! A great approach to practical implications. Definitely the same to me.

 

Thank you. You have an amazing streak, it just proves again that you are right. I really liked your idea about False promise. Your nick and avatar speak about it.

 

My 3 best most important values which help me refocus
(i) my health - semen discharge harms our bodies as our blood circulation works very hard to produce our life force - why waste it on pointless ejaculation which reduces my energy and makes me weaker (mentally and physically)
(ii) it feels fake... esp the internet porn world. It isn't real. Make up, airbrush, complete fantasy. I disregard it in my head as pure fiction and rubbish. The people on it are fake and the industry has no concern for our mental wellbeing
(iii) it allows me to focus my energy on other activities including family, personal goals, hobbies etc

 

Thank everyone for your answers! It is really great to see how much there are smart and aware people on this site.