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Three years of nothing but struggle

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Apr 5, 2016.

  1. Apr 5, 2016 #1
    Deleted Account

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    I'm nearly three years here. Got my ups and downs, but whole 2015 and 2016 is fulfilled with max 12-days streaks. I'm not feeling well, like I was in early stages of NoFap. The longer streak is, the more frustrated I am. Can sleep at nights - that's cool, but I don't see any improvement in nearly one and half year. Now I don't see the point of doing it. I'm sociable, great guy with some achievements, but this challenge is a lot of effort for me, that's complicating things in my life right now.
    In partialy 2013 and 2014 saw many benefits - really I was different person then. But now... what should I do? Only thing on my mind is quit.
     
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  2. Apr 5, 2016 #2
    RadiantStar

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    Give up porn atleast. Surely, you can masturbate without porn and the urges will subside. Porn is the real enemy. Eliminate that, and then focus on masturbation and gradually eliminate that at a pace that you feel comfortable with. But again, make sure to absotutely swear off porn.
     
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  3. Apr 5, 2016 #3
    Phibz

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    You aren't going to see improvement with 12 days. This isn't easy.
     
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  4. Apr 5, 2016 #4
    Awakening123

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    You can go back to it and not worry about nofap at all. There are many out there who watch porn and fap everyday but their lives aren't affected by it or could be they are just in denial.
     
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  5. Apr 6, 2016 #5
    Deleted Account

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    I know, but on 11 or 12th day I can only think of not sitting before PC - I was exercising, running, going out, reading books, meditate and other stuff when I felt the urge. But past year it was beating me. In work, in home and wherever. Urges are so strong I don't see things clearly. Can't focus in work at all. I don't use "don't think about porn" but "what should I do today to keep myself busy?". Yet, I'm falling again.

    I'm afraid of that. Don't want to do this. If I would become a person before NoFap, I would kill myself.
     
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  6. Apr 6, 2016 #6
    kk76

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    Yet
     
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  7. Apr 6, 2016 #7
    kk76

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    Only you have the answer to this. Life with porn or life without it, the latter is much better. There sounds like a justification that doing it sometimes it better than doing it multiple times a day. It's like when I was stopping drinking, ADS said to me just cut down, AA said stop. My life after ADS was OK and not as bad as before but my life after AA got much better. So me drinking once or twice a week wasn't great due to the reasons why I was doing it but stopping was much better.

    I could justify MO and PMO now:

    I'm a man
    It's natural
    We both work different shifts
    I'm sexually frustrated
    I don't do it every day
    I enjoy it
    It feels good

    and many, many more too. But if I want a better life then that is found by not doing this
     
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