Time to try this... (Newcomer leaving porn)

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Mark_tetra, Jul 29, 2014.

  1. Mark_tetra

    Mark_tetra Fapstronaut

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    Hi to everyone...

    I have just 2 days without watching porn and masturbation, so... this is not my first attempt to leaving this. I want to use this as a memmo to remmember every week o maybe every 3 days to say myself this is I did or this I can resist... Of course I have support from Jesus Christ but that's a private support to me.

    It's so hard to resist when a week or a month have passed... I've resisted 3 months in the past but is hard and more and more hard because the erections are uncontrollable and it's not easy when you remember all type of porn scenes. To begin let's take this challenge.

    If my english isn't good enought my apologies I'm from Mexico and try to obtain some help... if you read me that is a lot of help...

    Thank you.
     
  2. Tombuktu

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    Hey, welcome to the forum. I am also new here and have a great support from many here. Keep up the fight no matter how many times you have stumble. The fight is worth it. It is also good that you have your religious faith and I am sure that it will be helpful to you in this fight. You may also want to ready a few bits on yourbrainonporn.com . All the best and good luck :cool:
     
  3. Mark_tetra

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    Thanks for your words.

    Well today I've been calm... but I'm writting here because I'm starting to feel te need to enter to watch porn and masturbate... not yet but I feel I need it... so I'm reporting obstacles. I don't have a real goal, like I said in the past I have resisted just 3 months and I wanted 6 months but my problem or my real problem is that if I return the next time is more dificult to leave... I'm embarrased with myself every time I fall again.

    Thank you to anybody for reading this message, it makes me feel I'm not alone.
     
  4. Mark_tetra

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    Let's see if my signature is active with the counter... ok first goal a month.
     
  5. Mark_tetra

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    5th day... I just can't ignore the number of days because if I can resist just one it means victory for that day. At the momen I didn't go in a hurry... In the past I needed to PMO in order to dream relaxed, now that's not an option.

    Note: There are a little triggers in my mind of porn scenes, but no erections it looks like my penis (is it dead?) is offline of my brain...

    Is this an achieve? I wonder how much longer Can resist?

    Ok time to pray, it is important.
     
    Last edited: Aug 1, 2014
  6. 011214

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    Resistance alone is not enough. It's really great that you're making this decision and I hope you will find loads of encouragement here. Remember that pretty much all of us have been where you're at. It's difficult to step forward with confidence when we have our long list of failures behind us. You said that you have abstained for three months in the past. Ask yourself what you can do differently this time so that three months passes and you feel free rather than even more tempted.

    If your only tactic is to resist, resist, resist, you will only create more and more tension, which will eventually break. Rather than putting all of your focus on resisting something you don't want to do, ask yourself why you do it and begin putting your focus on healing those parts of yourself that compel you to look at porn. For me, it was largely about escape. The only way to resist the urge to escape it to fully embrace my reality. By doing that, I put all my energy into following my dreams, loving the people around me, and making good, positive decisions. For me, there is no longer the tension of resisting, only a deeper connection to my truer self.

    You can do this. Remember that you are made for real love. Porn is a lie and you have spent too much time lying to yourself. It does not serve you in any way.

    All the best.
     
  7. Mark_tetra

    Mark_tetra Fapstronaut

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    Thanks I really need that, and that's the trouble I get every time I try. This time to begin the 30 days is a first step to obtain confidence. What can I do this time? good question, now I'm trying to run away every stimulating image, sound, video that can excites me sexually... I will follow your advice about put my efforts in my dreams... there is a thesis I need to finish this year, I have friends, female friends that I love not in sexuall way and go to the cinema, walk somewhere... and I feel ready to go to the gym and spent my energy there...

    Even with that I feel If I break my resistance I can fall... so whatever it happens I'll write it here and wait for gold advices like the one you let here...

    And the last time... I felt alone, now I feel I gota lot of mates here.

    Thanks a lot.
     
  8. middlepath

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    very good job bro.i starting one signature for myself!! wohoo!! :)
     
  9. Mark_tetra

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    Got a dangerous trigger today... There's a girl I like that sent me a hug and caused me an erection. I know it's because I'm under porn efects. Need more time, it's hilarious how the words of a person you like can do you that thing instead of sexy images, porn etc...

    I survived once again...
     
  10. Mark_tetra

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    6th day...

    Got triggers from words like hug? Now I understand how I've been afected by PMO. I'm fine and calm. I felt something in my penis, I think was anxiety. No porn multimedia in my brain interacted just the meaning of being hugged by her... ok time to reset the achieve today, tomorrow next battle.
     
  11. Tombuktu

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    You are doing great and keep it up. It may be a good idea to also get an accountability partner here who will help you. If you are bold enough you can also add Sex Addicts Anonymous to your fighting arsenal. Remember again the post about "objectives". It is very important to clarify what you want to be free from porn addiction. It is those healthy objectives that will keep you going and strong.
     
  12. Mark_tetra

    Mark_tetra Fapstronaut

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    7th day... I went to the cinema with a female friend, nothing about sexual atraction between us but we talk a lot. I got home very tired and I fell asleep. Got erections when I'm on bed but I ignore that...
     
  13. Mark_tetra

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    Ok, I'm going to do a list about my objectives and why to clarify what I want to achieve. Need a little of time to order ideas, then express them here and in my mind. I just can say I don't feel alone when some people knows about me here and that's make me feel supported.
     
  14. MasterPablo

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    K9 is very effective way to block porn
     

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