Hi everyone, back at the start of November my SO came to realise he may have a PA after I sent him the ted talk. Since then we have tried to implement lots of strategies and I know why you are gonna say ‘we...should of been he’. Anyway, he’s admitted it to his friends and some family, he’s started transactional therapy, joined a gym, been on a healthy mind and body course, watched and read some literature on addiction and behaviours. But still 3 months in with so much to lose he is really struggling to get a grip day to day with restraining. To the point I was losing hope when he regressed and started hiding it all again. We love each other very much and before I discovered this we were very happy. Now I wish I could shut the box and forget about it but we can’t now it’s open. My question today is, is having boundaries etc realistic at this stage in the journey? As the more he acts out and can’t control his behaviour the more inward he becomes again. Or is it beneficial keeping them but having lower expectations for them to commit to them but hopefully over time they would? I know I sound so wishy washy but I do not want this relationship to fail because of this. Me and my kids have invested so much and love him but i know I can’t just pretend it’s not happening. I’m the only one who can be his accountability partner as no one else is on hand to support him but he doesn’t want to hurt me by disclosing so it’s catch 22!!!