Ah, I assumed it was a match of yours you were referring to. Right, of course. No, not everyone can do it. Sometimes my social anxiety extends to texting guys I like, or messaging with Tinder matches! So I think it IS something to be proud of. To talk to a GUY in real life, including with all that shame about being a woman initiating a conversation with shock horror! a man!!! difficult to do. But not impossible. Well, I do go to the odd singles event. I did last Saturday night and I am again tonight. I do it for my social skills and conversational skills and to help with my mild social anxiety. And sometimes it's also a laugh. I don't tend to benefit from things like that more than in those ways, but even THAT's really good and beneficial.