I have social anxiety. However, it doesn't control my motivation to attempt being social as often as I can. Everyone has their own ways of dealing with social anxiety that work for them, however, here's what I do: 1) First and foremost, be kind. Always be kind. I understand that this goes without saying. However, giving yourself the reputation of being approachable will always give you social opportunities...even when you can't make the most of all your opportunities, they will always come your way. 2) Respond organically, in your unique way, to social situations...not as you expect people think you should. This is another way of saying 'just be yourself'. For a long time, I said things that I thought would be appropriate for someone to say, and not what I would personally say in response to a situation (I still do this sometimes, but not as much anymore). Yeah, people will like talking to you if you say things that fit their expectations, but they will never understand who your true self is. You will have a much easier time connecting with people when you can "just be yourself", despite any amount of "social awkwardness" that may ensue. 3) Seriously, don't be afraid to say something stupid. Everyone says stupid things...you will say stupid things in your life...it's an inevitability. For much of my life, I tried my hardest to keep from saying something stupid, and when I did, I thought about it for much longer than I care to admit...even when everyone else had long forgotten. Nowadays, I've loosened my filter quite a bit. I still say stupid things quite often, but after I've laughed it off, it's like it never even happened. It also doesn't hurt to own up to it, either. Admit that what you just said was probably stupid. 4) Stop trying so damn hard to impress people. Nobody's impressed. What does impress people is the figurative light that shines from your unique personality. Honestly, I don't feel like I do too much when I hang out with people, but they still tend to go out of their way to tell me how awesome of a time they had with me. If people express how good of a time they had with you, trust me, you're doing something right! 5) Always, ALWAYS, respect people's feelings...no matter how wrong you think they are! Hell, even I'm not perfect at this. I still find myself thinking, how in the world could someone feel this way? My best tip to you when someone expresses a feeling that you don't agree with, is to ask questions...while also doing your best not to get defensive. If they talk to you, great. Don't be afraid to express your feelings either, just do it in a respectful manner. That is exactly how effective communication works. Also, if they can't talk about it (or, more appropriately, if they have a hard time talking about it), you also have to respect their desire not to talk about it. That is a great way to develop trust with an individual. Remember, being socially anxious isn't a bad thing. It's not something that has to "go away" for you to function socially. You can be outgoing and introverted at the same time! If you're struggling with social anxiety, don't be afraid to throw me a PM. I'll know where you're coming from, and I'll do my best to help.