Hi, welcome to NoFap.
If you are reading in this forum probably you are starting your rebooting.
Four months ago I did not even know I was a porn addict, actually I did not know that that was an addiction neither.
I learned when I found by chance the TedTalks Glasgow video by Gary Wilson. I could not believe, he was describing everything I was experiencing by then.
It will be a tough process, and you will experience several withdrawal symptoms the first 4-5 weeks (personally I had terrible ball ache and I was super depressed, crying out of the blue or shouting people in some business meeting).
The good thing is that it is worth it. You will start seeing positive changes soon.
Some tips that worked for me:
1. Install K-9 in your computer, so when you feel tempted to browse porn, this software blocks it. If you feel that you will "cheat" yourself, ask somebody to put some random password and throw it to the trash;
2. The way I fight my sudden urges is reading my "emergency tool" package, which I have saved in my cellphone in Notes, so I always have it handy.
I wrote there some texts describing how down I was feeling when I started the NoFap journey, and some sentences I extracted from other posts
I posted them here, feel free to use them if they are good for you.
http://nofap.com/forum/index.php?th...ng-my-first-100-days.45178/page-2#post-318947
Otherwise you can write your own things , things that touch your heart when you are immerse in an urge.
I read from another Fapstronauts that he make a video of him fapping while watching PMO, and it was so depressing and pathetic that helped him to avoid relapsing
3. Watch a lot of videos about this addiction and why you will be better if you quit.
Here is a link to a previous post where I put every video that I found helpful
http://nofap.com/forum/index.php?th...-me-a-lot-during-my-reboot.39774/#post-298396
4. Come to this site every day, read some blogs, post something if you feel like it. Help some newbies. All this is very healing, and staying connected helps a lot.
5. Keep yourself very busy, create an agenda that does not allow you to have time to watch porn. Stay away from the places that "reminds you" to PMO or some related action (in my case, I used to visit paid escorts, so I stay away from these places.
6. Delete from your computer every video or picture that you have. It is painful but a big commitment (I was saving porn videos for 11 years, so it was super difficult for me to do it. Make sure you delete them from your Trash Bin so you cannot recover them.
7. If you are old school, perhaps you also have DVD's or porn magazines. Throw them away too.
8. Unsubscribe from every porn site or softcore e-mail subscription that can keep sending you stuff that can tempt you to relapse (very painful, specially if you have paid for it, like I did)
9. Delete and block all the contacts from your cell that can trigger PMO. In my case, I had like 11 contacts of escorts saved, that I blocked and deleted.
10. In the instant that you get an urge, stop yourself from the excitement for 30 second, and try to think what is really triggering it. In my case, I always discover some unpleasant situation that happened a few hours ago, that make me a bit depressed or sad, and triggers a desire to PMO. Once you realize what is the trigger, the urge trend to disappear.
11. Get cold showers every time you start feeling an urge that you cannot stop. I needed this for the first 5 weeks, because I could not stop “the rush” inside my body.I still use cold water to my daily shower, it helps you to get used to tolerate pain.
12. Exercise a lot, you need to “sweat” your urge out. I found that the best way to lower my dopamine level was to go to the gym and do bicycle every day for 30 minutes. It released my stress and let me relax and sleep better.
I hope some of these tips help you.
Keep fighting, it is worth it
Fercho
If you are reading in this forum probably you are starting your rebooting.
Four months ago I did not even know I was a porn addict, actually I did not know that that was an addiction neither.
I learned when I found by chance the TedTalks Glasgow video by Gary Wilson. I could not believe, he was describing everything I was experiencing by then.
It will be a tough process, and you will experience several withdrawal symptoms the first 4-5 weeks (personally I had terrible ball ache and I was super depressed, crying out of the blue or shouting people in some business meeting).
The good thing is that it is worth it. You will start seeing positive changes soon.
Some tips that worked for me:
1. Install K-9 in your computer, so when you feel tempted to browse porn, this software blocks it. If you feel that you will "cheat" yourself, ask somebody to put some random password and throw it to the trash;
2. The way I fight my sudden urges is reading my "emergency tool" package, which I have saved in my cellphone in Notes, so I always have it handy.
I wrote there some texts describing how down I was feeling when I started the NoFap journey, and some sentences I extracted from other posts
I posted them here, feel free to use them if they are good for you.
http://nofap.com/forum/index.php?th...ng-my-first-100-days.45178/page-2#post-318947
Otherwise you can write your own things , things that touch your heart when you are immerse in an urge.
I read from another Fapstronauts that he make a video of him fapping while watching PMO, and it was so depressing and pathetic that helped him to avoid relapsing
3. Watch a lot of videos about this addiction and why you will be better if you quit.
Here is a link to a previous post where I put every video that I found helpful
http://nofap.com/forum/index.php?th...-me-a-lot-during-my-reboot.39774/#post-298396
4. Come to this site every day, read some blogs, post something if you feel like it. Help some newbies. All this is very healing, and staying connected helps a lot.
5. Keep yourself very busy, create an agenda that does not allow you to have time to watch porn. Stay away from the places that "reminds you" to PMO or some related action (in my case, I used to visit paid escorts, so I stay away from these places.
6. Delete from your computer every video or picture that you have. It is painful but a big commitment (I was saving porn videos for 11 years, so it was super difficult for me to do it. Make sure you delete them from your Trash Bin so you cannot recover them.
7. If you are old school, perhaps you also have DVD's or porn magazines. Throw them away too.
8. Unsubscribe from every porn site or softcore e-mail subscription that can keep sending you stuff that can tempt you to relapse (very painful, specially if you have paid for it, like I did)
9. Delete and block all the contacts from your cell that can trigger PMO. In my case, I had like 11 contacts of escorts saved, that I blocked and deleted.
10. In the instant that you get an urge, stop yourself from the excitement for 30 second, and try to think what is really triggering it. In my case, I always discover some unpleasant situation that happened a few hours ago, that make me a bit depressed or sad, and triggers a desire to PMO. Once you realize what is the trigger, the urge trend to disappear.
11. Get cold showers every time you start feeling an urge that you cannot stop. I needed this for the first 5 weeks, because I could not stop “the rush” inside my body.I still use cold water to my daily shower, it helps you to get used to tolerate pain.
12. Exercise a lot, you need to “sweat” your urge out. I found that the best way to lower my dopamine level was to go to the gym and do bicycle every day for 30 minutes. It released my stress and let me relax and sleep better.
I hope some of these tips help you.
Keep fighting, it is worth it
Fercho
