Hi all, I'm new to the NoFap community, and after reading numerous discussions on this forum, it's great to know i'm not alone with struggles I've encountered for years. Anyway, I'm a 34 year old male with an almost non-existent dating life. I'm a fairly introverted person, and do consider myself to be socially anxious, mainly around women. I feel this is somewhat due to my long term addiction to PMO in my late teens, where I generally avoided getting close to girls in high school. I have a good level of confidence with most aspects of life, and have always had great success with work and my career. The exception to this is a total lack of confidence with women and relationships. At around age 22, I got into a short relationship with woman I worked with. This was basically my first relationship. It was at this point that I realized I had an issue with not being able to perform sexually, which I know now was 'PIED' due to being stimulated primarily by porn/fetish thorough my teens, and not with real women. This left me with an even lower confidence to date women and get into relationships, and so have been single ever since. When I see attractive qualities in a woman, I'm very attracted to them in my mind, but don't have strong urges downstairs. This is quite the opposite with porn/fetish triggers. Now, I recently sent a happy birthday message on facebook to a girl I went to high school with 15 years ago. I admired this girl in school, as she had a farily reserved personality, like myself. As it turns out, we had a short convo on messenger and I basically found out that she is single. Based on a few subtle hints in her messages, she seemed interested. For a short period there, I was so excited by this, but then had my lack of confidence pull me back from continuing our convo. I basically indicated that it was great to hear from her, and that we would speak again soon. So this is the issue I currently have. To be able to get in a relationship with this girl very much excites me, but on the other hand, due to my minimal sexual experience and previous PIED issues, I just don't have the confidence sexually and don't know if i'll be able to perform. This really scares me. I started NoFap around 4 months ago, but have relapsed a few times, and my longest run has been around 30 days. I'm on the 2nd week of my current reboot, which I understand is only the beginning stages of any kind of recovery for my many years of PMO. I am, however, starting to feel some positive effects of NoFap (slightly increased confidence, reduced craving for porn and fetish material). So my dilemma is, should I push myself to break out of my comfort zone and contact her now, or wait till I'm further in my recovery and risk losing my opportunity with her? Any advise would be greatly appreciated. Sorry for the lengthy post.