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To lonely or NOT to lonely (what's Shakespere's #?)

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by LOSEmyselftoSAVEmyself, Feb 16, 2019.

  1. You Can Choose, If You Want...

    (please don't get put off by the size of my post, this IS IMPORTANT FOR EVERY FAPSTRONAUT!!!!)


    Loneliness is a choice.



    I left my wife in 2017. I thought that I'd just drift back into dating

    like I'd never left the scene.

    I was in for a shock.

    Women didn't want me.

    So I started to improve myself, losing weight, and being fit.

    I wrote, practiced music, and did many good things.

    But still, I couldn't get a date.

    Now, it has been about 1.5 years since my divorce.



    Having the courage to talk to a woman is a brutal struggle, and

    I usually go home without digits.

    I like the idea of fighting my fear, but I ultimately do not

    want another wife at the moment.

    So I go long periods of time on my own, not

    a female in sight.



    In times like these, I have two choices:

    a. I could be lonely. But loneliness is not good for life improvement challenges.

    Also, it won't make a woman like me any more, probably, it

    repels her on some level.



    b. I can decide to let go of the loneliness. I can be happy.



    At first, making this choice to be happy took immense force.

    But after a while, I got stronger.

    Now it operates like a light switch.



    If I feel lonely, then I discover I have left a light on

    in a room inside my house that I'm not occupying.

    So I flip the switch down.



    I can use a prop to help me out, if it's stubborn.

    I listen to a stand up comic. I have a "happiness playlist".

    I put a smile on my chevy chase.

    I lift weights, run, or laugh at oxymorons on the internet.



    Nobody can FORCE me to feel anything.



    If a woman has no presence over my emotions, self-esteem,

    or life progress, why give her license?



    Handing over to a stranger, as I have mentioned in

    other posts, my thoughts and emotions,

    is like asking a random stranger off the street

    to perform a flash brain surgery.

    Even a brain surgeon needs time to think about

    how to get it done right.



    That is, if it is even possible...



    So if a brain surgeon has trouble,

    the man off the street

    has no chance.

    Zero.




    So be happy, that is,

    if you want....
     
    Last edited: Feb 16, 2019
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