You need to look for the matriarchal communities of central Asia, these cultures have no words for rape and war. I perfectly agree with you that it's not normal, and certainly more rooted in how our cultures perceive the man/woman sexual dynamics. The way females are more seen as sexual objects instead of participating subjects, and how long female sexuality has been vilified, along with all the elements constituting machismo.
Yes, it's definitely a question of culture. Not only biology. Humanity and cultures - you can't seperate these two.
However I don't know about these central Asian cultures (though it's interesting). But what has that to do with what happened in your neighbourhood?
I don't think it's accurate to say this, P certainly contributes to misogyny and female degradation. Most addicts experience an escalation in their preferences, which almost always leads to highly abusive, extremely violent content. This will certainly increase the rate of sexual assaults.
If this is correct, it doesn't mean it wasn't accurate what I said. Look, you don't go to an AA meeting just to tell the others how alcohol is bad and how many traffic accidents and murders have happened under alcohol-influence.
But maybe it's good for us addicts, if we are confronted with such drastic examples from time to time. Not to feel guilty or responsible for the deeds of criminals but to question our own behavior and way of thinking.
From my perspective, this is a lot about boundaries. What are (were) my boundaries? How do I respect them and make sure I'm not consuming repulsive highly abusive content? The problem is the habituation. If we are used to extreme content / fantasies, how do we get back?
Also there's this dilemma: it should be no porn - abstinence and rebooting is what we want. But when we snap and relapse how to make sure we don't break all the boundaries again and even look for novelties that are on the more extreme spectrum.
By the way, three things to your information,
@she-dernatinus :
1. escalation doesn't necessarily mean more extreme, more fetish, more violence. I think the word "novelty" describes the best what the brain is looking for.
2. the addiction isn't constant escalation. It also builds routines. I think the longer one is addicted the more this person will have set fixed routines for the pmo sessions - you go to certain old places, look for certain things that you get off before. It can be a fetish, a fantasy scenario, a person (performer) or just a memory of a detail that is connected in your brain to a rush of dopamine or adrenalin.
3. to fully understand the addiction you need to understand that it's not primarily sexual. Rather it's all about dopamine. That's the reason why many addicted young guys lack social and sexual activity and interest in real life. When the brain (or its reward system) learns that rewards from real world activities (like approaching a potential partner) are hard to get while they are easily available during an internet sessions, why should it bother to improve socially? We push a button and we get a reward, then we get addicted. That's the whole story in a nutshell. Compare it to a gambling addiction. Is the content of a slot machine repulsive and morally wrong?
I'm only telling you all this, to point out the core of the addiction. Of course our behavior has moral implications. And we shouldn't run away from responsibility. That's one of the things we addicts need to learn.
