After I walked off he texted me "I know it sounds pedophile like, But how is it inappropriate if most guys I know have been there and felt the need to do that?" YOU KNOW IT SOUNDS PEDOPHILE LIKE...!!!!!!!!!! Seriously? You just said that. But don't see the problem? I responded "Everybody thought smoking was great. Now porn and objectification and and reducing women's value to their sex appeal are what's ok. How is it appropriate when it literally affects your relationship? Your ability to have sex. The way you treat your partner? Because I believe all of that contributes to sex issues and intimacy problems." Him: "It sounds like you are talking about something much bigger" It is much bigger. But it includes and affects us. Herd mentality isn't a good thing. The world is flat. The earth is at the center of the universe. Slavery. LGBTQ. Religion and all the wars fought in the name of each respective god or God (He's an atheist but wasn't always so he knows what it's like to change your viewpoint on something major). Bloodletting used to be THE medical treatment. Every health fad/diet/trend that replaces the previous because it's found to be wrong. What is 'normal' or 'healthy' is subjective and ever evolving. If it hurts a person or a relationship, I don't find anything appropriate about that. Either the behavior is inappropriate or the relationship is for those particular people. I wish I'd said all that. Still might. May come up with more. Have been pulling YBOP articles. He is logically minded and respects science. I'm gonna hit him with everything I can. We talked. He cried. I cried. We're not done talking. I am holding him at a distance. He's staying elsewhere this week. Pre-planned but oh how I wish I could've been the one requesting it. I walked away because I couldn't stand the sight of him and I wanted to do him physical violence. I want to shake the P fueled nonsense out of his head. It's his birthday this week. We have a major trip planned. Anniversary next month. Lots of big things to get through and analyze. I'm not ok with any of this. I deserve more. I deserve better. More respect and consideration. Better treatment and effort. If he can't or won't then so be it. Honestly he's out of chances. I do see the only catalyst for real change being me leaving. I must be a masochist to put up with all this - was never allowed or able to give up on my addict parents. And look where I am now. F u addiction. F u porn. F u codependency. Therapy today. Should be interesting.