Top Inspirational Posts from HOTS

I've been wanting to add an encompassed thread for all of the wonderful post from Heirs of the Sun because I wanted to share them the forums. Hope you all enjoy!

By Heir: Mighty Wolf
5 happy habits that actually make you happier; [The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson]

“Shawn Achor, author of The Happiness Advantage, is the happiness researcher and author I’ve worked with most. I have brought him into my company to conduct three-hour workshops on how to be happy as I am committed to spreading happiness! Shawn teaches a set of five simple things you can do every day that, if you do them consistently over time, will make you significantly, noticeably, measurably happier. They are slight edge actions for happiness: happy habits.

1. Each morning, write down three things you’re grateful for. Not the same three every day; find three new things to write about. That trains your brain to search your circumstances and hunt for the positive.

2. Journal for two minutes a day about one positive experience you’ve had over the past twenty-four hours. Write down every detail you can remember; this causes your brain to literally re-experience the experience, which doubles its positive impact.

3. Meditate daily. Nothing fancy; just stop all activity, relax, and watch your breath go in and out for two minutes. This trains your brain to focus where you want it to, and not get distracted by negativity in your environment.

4. Do a random act of kindness over the course of each day. To make this simple, Shawn often recommends a specific act of kindness: at the start of each day, take two minutes to write an email to someone you know praising them or thanking them for something they did.

5. Exercise for fifteen minutes daily. Simple cardio, even a brisk walk, has a powerful antidepressant impact, in many cases stronger (and more long-lasting) than an actual antidepressant.

According to Shawn, if you do any one of these things faithfully for just three weeks, twenty-one days in a row, it will start to become a habit—a happy habit. You will have literally begun to rewire your brain to see the world in a different way, and as a result, to be happier on an everyday basis.

An interesting thing is that you don’t have to do all five at once—in fact, Shawn actually recommends that you don’t even try to do that, but instead start with just one and keep repeating it until it becomes a habit, then add another, and so on.”

~The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson

By Heir: Dreadduck
List of Potential Symptoms

Hello heirs. I would like to explain the symptoms you will potentially experience while you progress and get away from masturbation and pornography. Remember these symptoms are only temporary, you have to be patient. And let the storm pass. I will go ahead and list all the symptoms I experienced what you may have likely experienced

1.Insomnia - Sleep has been getting crappier for me, if I sleep like at around 9:30 PM I end up waking up 3-4 hours later and I am unable to fall back asleep. I think you will start experiencing this symptom around Day 60, or way earlier, Day 30 at most. I wake up like crap afterwards.

2.Sexual Dreams, and Porn Flashbacks - You will start experiencing flashbacks from Pornography, and it will attempt to give you urges. These flash backs could last for around a month or so, it may be difficult to start forgetting about them and it could pretty scare you. As well as arousing you.

3.Sexual Fantasies becoming more disturbing, shameful and demented - I have fantasies in which I truly feel the shame and disgusted embarrassment from. These sexual fantasies can occur that fuels what type of porn genre or fetish turns you on. It is likely they will become more sporadic around 2 months, and these fantasies are almost as real as watching porn as they can create self images, which are only just illusion are not real, once again, they can still bring you all the shame because you do not like fantasizing about this and it is not suppose to be that way. But they shouldn't last forever. Eventually when months go by, you will start feeling disgusted and go back to your true balanced self.

4.Headaches, and other pains - I been getting a lot of headaches and back head headaches ever since I have stopped watching pornography, it has been over three months since I last watched porn. Eventually I started feeling pain, from headaches to chest pain, etc. I am still currently experiencing the pain, like everything else in this withdrawal symptom, they are only temporary. Welcome the pain!

5.Lack of motivation - You may feel like you are very unmotivated to do something, I have been getting doubts for a while, but only because I am putting so much thought onto that doubt, eventually this is caused by the symptoms playing with your emotions.

6.Depression - Depression has made its way back and more powerful than ever, it is hard to get over things that aren't even a big deal. It is hard to maintain a positive outlook, and try to move on from it. It is gonna take a lot of time and effort to feel better.

7.Anger - You will start being suddenly more hostile and short-tempered than before. Unless you have a lot of self-control, you may start being more angry for a while. Try not to let anything anger you.

8.Irritation - You will start experiencing an overwhelmingly amount of irritation. It is a pain to start feeling suddenly more impatient calm or annoyed all of a sudden. Like work, etc.

9.Lack of Concentration/Focus - I have been having hard time concentrating and trying to keep my head together and out of the gutter. Seem that is is more difficult than what I would anticipate. It gives me headaches to keep myself together if I try to, hopefully it shouldn't stay as long as other symptoms.

10.Easily forgetting things - I have been easily forgetting a lot of stuff, like what was I was doing before, or what I have planned to do. I think because the brain fog is making you forget, I feared that I was going to suffer some kind of memory lost or something but it was just another symptom.

11.Erections - This is still common when you are around the first 30-40 days, maybe even more. They occur when you start having sexual thoughts or you are fantasizing of something that turns you on. It can be temporary depending how long you will get used to these same thoughts or fantasies in your head and how long you haven't watch porn.

12.Lack of emotions - Another symptom you will start experiencing for a while, I can barely make myself cry, I can't feel any remorse what so ever, nor I can't seem to laugh as much anymore because porn has taken away my sense of humor. As months go by, they will slowly began to return. You will experience lack of these kinds of emotions, but once they come back, you will probably cry a bunch of tears that you will feel as if you are free from the dungeon of eternal darkness

13.Loss of Libido - Another symptom you will experience (especially when going through a flatline). I noticed that I find girls attractive, and cute, but having no sexual desire all of a sudden. Right now I am not really sure how long this will last, but I am confident that it is temporary. I feel like I am asexual, because I have suddenly no desire to have sex anymore, I wasn't like this before porn.

14.Loneliness - I have experienced random feelings of loneliness several times. It wasn't severe because I was used to be alone most of the time but it still not a good feeling. This is definitely only temporary. Because truly you are not alone, and there is people you can count on.

For now that is all the possible symptoms listed here, let me know if you experience any of this symptoms! Tell me when or how did you get these.

By Heir Britaxe

Today my counter clicks over to 240 days Masturbation Free. I've now gone 256 Days without watching Porn too.

It would be a lie to say I don't think about M, how it use to feel, letting that rationalisation take over. It never gets that far.

I can freely talk about PMO with my current partner which to me means a lot really. I can talk to some friends too. My AP who i check in with daily has become a firm friend through messaging.

I know porn is out there still, waiting to be used. I'm no longer exposed too much to the sexualised society we live in due to streamlining my TV experience and the use of Internet Ad-Blockers. I don't miss the shit that is spewed out on a hourly basis to draw me in and take over my senses. I'm very careful what i expose my mind to.

How do i feel. I feel peaceful for the most part. I'm no longer an angry tunnel visioned freak looking for his next porny fix from whatever source i could find at the time. It does just not interest me at all.

There is more to life that "sex" What i mean by that is fake sex. You know... porn, it isn't real it is a moving image on a screen conducted for the most part by actors. The still image is the same. It's an image of reality, sometimes so warped by photoshop it bears no resemblance to the original source.

I pride myself in only getting genuinely aroused in the presence of my partner. I did have thoughts of PIED and ED at the beginning of the relationship and I've found that this is now mainly a confidence and focusing issue with me. If I can't perform it's because my mind has drifted not because of my PMO Past.

To the doubters and do-gooders in the Porn industry, mainstream medical world and any other section of society that promotes fakeness... FUCK YOU. I have my life back after 32 years of PMO. I'm out front.

By Heir: Grindel
Hello Heirs.

When I look at the cycle of relapses that people go through, it blows my mind. What blows my mind more is that I was stuck in that same cycle!
You relapse, you get mad, you get all gung-ho and decide that this was the last time. Motivation goes away, you relapse, rinse and repeat.

Here's where the problem lies: You aren't changing what you are doing from relapse to relapse, which is insane. If you keep doing the same things, you're going to get the same results. It's so obvious, yet it took me two years of trying to quit PMO to figure it out.

I wrote a post yesterday about a process to go through when you relapse. Going through this process could very well be the difference between a successful reboot and another relapse.
What many don't realize is that changing your environment will only get you so far. Real, lasting change comes from within. Self-evaluation and self-reflection are your friends. So here's the process. If you relapse, do this. No excuses. If you aren't willing to set aside a little time to go through each step, you aren't serious enough about quitting.

"Step 1 - Take Inventory (aka Assess the Damage)

Take a look at your last streak and look at the last time you relapsed. Read through your last few posts on the site. Remember what was going on in your life. Remember what happened to make you fall off the wagon. This is really important, because you will need to be aware of those exact triggers in the future. Get into the emotions.

Yes, it will be uncomfortable, but when did anybody say this would be easy?

Step 2 - Forgive yourself.

This is probably the hardest part and the most important step. If you take nothing else from this email, please read the next paragraph carefully. It will be well worth it.

There is mental forgiveness: “I realize I made a mistake and it’s okay, let’s get on with it.” and then there is emotional forgiveness, a deep, fundamental realization of how human we are and a reorientation to the habit itself.

Mental forgiveness is faster, yet emotional forgiveness is slower and incredibly effective. Once complete, if feels as if you were starting the habit for the first time.

Here’s the trick - be gentle and slow with yourself. You’re doing the best you can. It’s okay!

Step 3 - Recommit to a WHY

Why are you booting PMO? Take a minute right now. What does it do for you? Ask yourself why for every answer your come up with till you find something significant.

For example:

Q: Why do I PMO?
A: I PMO because [insert reason here]

Q: Why am I stopping?
A: Becoming a better person everyday is a part of my core values.

Q: Why?
A: Because I can’t imagine my life without progress and growth.


Boom!

Step 4 - Re-identify your triggers

An interesting tactic couples therapy counsellors use when working with clients is asking them if they remember the first time they met and their early stages of dating.

The idea is to make them feel the same emotions and experiences that made them decide to commit to each other. The same works for habits. Maybe a trigger for you was a podcast or a YouTube video where you heard of the NoFap. I recommend watching it again. You can feel that desperation you had when you were first searching around.

The key here is to get you primed, psychologically and behaviourally, to re-start the habit. Use previous triggers + new triggers that you know will help you move forward.

Also, identify the triggers that caused you to stop - travel, and excuses about time are at the top of the list.

Step 5 - Get Accountability

Simply put, accountability works. Get a growth-oriented friend to hold you accountable for moving forward on your habit, either through text or email check-ins. Keep the system simple and straightforward. (That's what we here in the Heirs are for. Ask for an accountability partner and clearly define your goals to them. Many of us would be stoked to help.)"

[Note: This was adapted from an email I received. I changed some words to make it apply to NoFap a little better, but the process remains the same.]

If I hear about you relapsing, I will direct you to this post. Do not just read it and move on. You only get the benefit when you put the work in, and nobody else can do it for you.

 

By All of the Wonderful Heirs:

Heirs of the Sun: Oath, Pledge, Affirmation

I am part of a group called Heirs of the Sun. I have reached a point within myself where I am ready to make changes in my life. I have suffered from this secret, silent addiction long enough. I am no longer alone in this struggle.

Organization, cleanliness, communication, solidarity and honor are a part of me now. Those traits are the arrows in my quiver. I stand between the good choices being made today, and the darkness that once followed me. I stand strong. Shame, guilt, regret and frustration are natural reactions to defeat, but they are no longer a part of my vocabulary.

A group of soldiers fighting the same battle is counting on me, along with countless others who have yet to come. One day I will be able to be the one helping, instead of being helped. One day starts right now.

I vow to bookmark this home, this barracks, as a safe refuge where I can lay my head. Instead of wandering the web aimlessly and seeking triggers unconsciously, I will visit the Member Wall. It is my trench away from the front lines. I am safe here.

I feel good about myself and I can see success on the horizon. I have created affirmations that I repeat daily to myself to aid in my recovery. If I ever have a question I may post it, If I ever have an urge to relapse I may post about it, If I ever feel like giving up or giving in I will check-in with my Souls for motivation and courage.

I am an Heir of the Sun member and I seek to once again hold all light. I am the Sun that follows every dark night.


Heirs of the Sun Pledge

I vow to breathe progress. Everyday I can say I gave it everything I had.
To be dedicated. At least once a week I spend time with the Heirs.
To help others. Helping others is helping my own struggle.
To live nobly. I carry the weight of the Heirs everywhere I go.
To develop character. I understand this struggle is deeper than just pornography.
To exercise and eat right. How I treat the body reflects on my mind.
To live each day to the fullest. There are no dull moments. Even a shower can be exhilarating if its cold.
To never give up. The only failure is giving up.


Group Affirmation: Created by The Heirs

The past is done. I will only go back to learn from it. My focus however will lie on the future. The future begins now. For this journey I need companions. I will be devoted to serve them. Together we will get closer to the sun step by step, day by day, decision by decision. My limit is My mind; My mind has no limits; I HAVE NO LIMITS. I am creative about challenging myself. Pushing out of the comfort zone. LEAN on the edge of my fears. My why is greater than defeat, greater than my trials, greater than my tribulations. I am grateful for this life even with all the ups and downs. I wouldn't trade if for anything if I had the chance. It has made me into who I am today. I am strong. I can fight this, for the future, for my father, mother, brothers, future kids and spouse. For the future, I will not break. Like irons in a fire, our destiny is carefully shaped and strengthened; Acumen as my tongs, Strength my hammer, Resilience my anvil, and Anger my forge. I'm the master of my mind and body. I’m full of confidence and positive energy. I'm healthy and I exercise every day. I’m observant and aware. I live in the world, but am not of it. I live a life set apart from the world, but not above it. I am a bearer of light, and I share this light with all who cross my path. I will everyday wake up with light, just like the sun, rising. I will be my unique self and will no longer be controlled by this demon. I am part of the Heirs of the Sun, my brother's and sister's look foreword for my success. My strength, is your strength, is our strength. I shall help others, because helping another will be helping myself.

By Heir: SOLIDSTANCE

Heirs of the Sun: Oath and Mission Statement. Read and Internalize.

I am part of a group called Heirs of the Sun. I have reached a point within myself where I am ready to make changes in my life. I have suffered from this secret, silent addiction long enough. I am no longer alone in this struggle.

Organization, cleanliness, communication, solidarity and honor are a part of me now. Those traits are the arrows in my quiver. I stand between the good choices being made today, and the darkness that once followed me. I stand strong. Shame, guilt, regret and frustration are natural reactions to defeat, but they are no longer a part of my vocabulary.

A group of soldiers fighting the same battle is counting on me, along with countless others who have yet to come. One day I will be able to be the one helping, instead of being helped. One day starts right now.

I vow to bookmark this home, this barracks, as a safe refuge where I can lay my head. Instead of wandering the web aimlessly and seeking triggers unconsciously, I will visit the Member Wall. It is my trench away from the front lines. I am safe here.

I feel good about myself and I can see success on the horizon. I have created affirmations that I repeat daily to myself to aid in my recovery. If I ever have a question I may post it, If I ever have an urge to relapse I may post about it, If I ever feel like giving up or giving in I will check-in with my Souls for motivation and courage.

I am an Heir of the Sun member and I seek to once again hold all light. I am the Sun that follows every dark night.

 

By Heir: Fercho
Hi guys:
Here I am once again, for 11 th time writing my "victory speech "...and I CANNOT BELIEVE IT!!!
It was "not a bed of roses, not a pleasure cruise" , quoting my hero Freddy Mercury, but man! It was worth it every minute, every pain, every moment I have struggled to stay clean and not relapse!
I cannot emphasize more HOW WORTH IS THIS FIGHT!
For all of you that feel like shit when the urges arrive, that feel that you are losers and will never overcome this addiction: PLEASE DO NOT LOWER YOUR ARMS!
Take advantage of every drop of energy and will power you have, sees yourself until you feel exhausted , but DO NOT GIVE UP!
You will start feeling the benefits sooner or later. " REWIRING YOUR BRAIN IS FOR REAL.
I was very pesimistic and suspicious of all these self development and self-help sites and books all my life. I thought it was al bullshit.
I needed to get as depressed and with my self-esteem so low to give a try to NoFap and NoFap Academy, still thinking I would be losing my time and money.
Today, 11 months after I started my reboot I can tell you that this work if you commit all your energy and mental resources .
Some of you know my story and how much I have struggled during the first few months of reboot.
Incredible things happened inside my brain, like remembering every detail of how Inwas sexually abused by some classmates inside a school restroom at 6th grade, which was hidden inside my mind because I felt guilty and remorse.
This was when my addiction to M started, which later evolved in warptching gay porn and hiring hundred of male escorts. Always looking for a comforter distress, as if something good would happen from this PMO addiction.
Getting out from PMO allowed me to remember and start healing, to get back to my wife and start catching up for all these yeas I have neglected her, for all the time I did not take care of her and preferred to be fapping in the bathroom instead of listening to get or having a conversation.
I went through several states of emotion during this journey: the first 4 months I felt trapped and lost, afterward I started feeling some relief but a lot of shame, when I started being able to see the "addicted Fercho " with the eyes of the "Fercho in recovery".
During this last month I got a new perspective. First of all, I feel as happy as I have not felt since I can remember. All the sadness and depression I used to have ( like the sensation of a hand pressing my chest most of the time) is COMPLETELY GONE.
I FEEL HAPPY AND CONFIDENT IN THE FUTURE, even if I have problems at work or at home some days.
I used to seek shelter in PMO every time I has some stress or some problems, now I look to solve this problems in a proactive way, not hiding in a bathroom and making love to my hand.
I would lie if I say that I have no more urges. They still appear when I have stress or something is not as perfect as I want. But NoFap and NoFap Academy taught me how to channel my energy in positive things ( like my Tai Chi practice which I started 7 month ago) instead of PMO. It is what Mark and @alexander will call " fullfilling disciplines".
During the last month , for first time in 40 years, I FELT THAT THE NIGHTMARE IS OVER.
I will not lower the guard, because complacency is the worst enemy for reboot. But I can live with the reassurance that PMO is part of my past story , if I stay focus and committed.
I do not feel ashamed any more. I did not do anything wrong, just was another victim of the porn industry and the perfect tricks that they use to make slaves out of us.
The article published by Time Magazine last week also gave me a big peace of mind. For first time our addiction is going public, and we do not need to hide and be ashamed anymore. It is a big break through for all PMO fighters!
Last but not least, I want to thank once again to some of the Fapstronauts that helped me during the worst moments of my reboot: @JoeinMD , @WOTL , @goldstein
They were also present every time I needed them, like several others in this site that perhaps I forget now.
And of course to Mark Queppet and @alexander Rhodes. Without their weekly counseling at NoFap Academy I would have quit before the second month was over.
Guys, I start today counting the days for my ONE YEAR VICTORY SPEECH...stay tuned!
Keep on fighting
Fercho

 

By Heir: Grindel

Hello Heirs,


The time has come for me to leave the Heirs of the Sun. Of course, a time must come when everybody will have to move on… I just didn’t expect it to be so soon for me. It may seem sudden, but I have been thinking about this for weeks now. Events in my life this past weekend in combination with events in the group helped me to make my decision. The Heirs were incredibly helpful for me at the beginning of this reboot, but now it is time to have a go at it on my own.

The past three and a half months as part of this group have been wonderful. With the help of all of you, I have kept 2016 entirely PMO free up to this point, something that will be continuing. I have discovered a lot about myself, I have made some great friends, and I might have helped one or two of you!

I have nothing but gratitude for @Knight Solaire and @Strugglesaurus for creating the group and running it. @SolidStance also, for writing the manual and presenting some challenges that did great things for me.

Thank you to anyone who has read anything I have written and offered an opinion, or taken a post to heart.

Thank you to everyone who stayed strong in your battle against PMO. You have no idea how much you have helped me with my own struggles.

I am still going to check Telegram periodically. Please send me a PM if you want to hear my thoughts on something, if you’re having troubles, or especially if you just want to say hello and shoot the shit for a while.

In typical Grindel fashion, this post is going to include some thoughts I’ve been pondering for a while. Thoughts that may be able to help you as they have helped me, not only in this journey to drop PMO, but in life.

First one: Always remember that the words you speak do not mean nearly as much as the actions you take.
It’s easy to talk a big game in anything. “That was my final relapse!” or “I am going to start exercising regularly” or even something like “I love you.”
These statements must be proven. They mean nothing as words. What means something is the meaning behind them. Each and every one of those statements require a lot of work to prove, and it isn’t always easy. That’s what makes it great when the statements are true and proven.

Live by your words. If you can’t, say nothing and let your actions speak for themselves.

And here is my final thought for you, Heirs of the Sun: Don’t take yourselves too seriously. I say this with all good intentions and all the love in my heart… You aren’t special. There are billions of people just like you. Sure, they may have different beliefs, different thoughts, and different habits, but at the core we are all human. We all have our struggles. We have all overcome adversity in some way or another. We all have beliefs, thoughts, and habits.

I say this because so often I see issues on the forums (and occasionally here in the group) where a person says something that goes against the grain as far as commonly held beliefs in NoFap. Suddenly, everyone takes it upon themselves to correct the wrong person, telling them how wrong they are and why it’s silly to think the way they are.

THIS IS A PROBLEM.

People come here for help and a sense of solidarity. When they are basically crucified for having an understanding of a subject that is wrong or an opinion that is different from the majority, this may put them off.

Now, I’m not saying that if somebody has a misconception that is blatantly wrong (or even a little wrong) you should let it fly. But instead of telling them how wrong or closeminded they are, have an open discussion. Listen to their points, give them yours. It will be resolved, and the trust between both parties will have grown. Instead, you have people holding their tongues when they have a different belief because they know that it will get shit on. You’re missing on an opportunity to learn, to teach, and to grow.
That goes against the whole mission of the Heirs and NoFap as a whole. We are here to grow.

The takeaway from all of this: Be open and accepting of different thoughts and views. Often if they are explained, they align with the views of your own. And if they are misguided, have a discussion. It may not always be agreed at the end, but communication is never the problem. Lack of communication generally is.


For the last time: All the best everyone.

Grindel, out.

 

By Heir: Akumadi

I hope everyone is doing well, I'm currently on my 324th day of No P.M.O, and I couldn't have come so far if it wasn't for all the people who supported me on this journey.
For me this journey is about self improvement, self love and acceptance, all in all just breaking out of my comfort zone, cultivating, courage, confidence, congruence, a renewed sense of pride, strength and embracing masculinity and coming into my own. Nofap is a door that leads to a better, healthier more conscious way of life, full of vigor, strength, vitality and challenges that pressure you to evolve from mediocrity, nofap by itself will only do so much, but, the urge is the power.

The urge is your "FIRE", you raw passion, drive, motivation that makes you want to improve an change your life;
How I sed the urge is sexual transmutation, when i feel an urge I do something positive like exercise, studying, doing things to break out of my comfort zone like approaching beautiful women, lol despite having anxiety, these things cultivate courage and confidence. Right now all I ask of you is to remember this one thing:

Anything you set your mind to, you will achieve if you dedicate your self to it, whether it be Martial Art's, building your own business, going to UNI, being upfront & straight forward with a female, standing up to bully's or even becoming the strongest, most awesome person you can be.

Stay strong, live long

 

By Heir: FrankyJr

Hey guys,

I was looking forward to this post. 180 days of no PMO. The time is flying by and this state of not being sucked into something destructive becomes the norm.

These last weeks I've been busy in my job, got a lot of new responsibilities and also new pressure. This would have been something that would have driven me into the arms of anything providing me with a fast pressure release and dopamine overflow. At the moment I can say I'm good to myself.

What helps me staying on my path.

Exercise: If there's some addictive behavior nowadays it's the way I'm working out. I find 2 to 3 hours every day to exercise (Which means no gaming, watching movies or shows). The results are good but most importantly my mind has no chance to wander into spheres I don't want it to. For these hours of workout there's no time for negativity or laziness. I'm focused and I don't allow myself any excuses.

Eating healthy: Some say 80% of success in fitness is eating healthy. I know now that this is true. Found myself buying fruits for the first time in my life. (Let's not focus on what this means about how I treated myself before ) I eat no artificial sugar at all. This was hard but is also just normal for me today.

No alcohol: Drinking was always something that made me lazy and I made some bad decisions when I was drunk or wasted. I don't want this kind of loosing control. It's not easy since I'm from Germany and beer is like water when you are together with friends.

Projects: I try to find little new projects to keep me busy. Don't laugh but I'm learning to shuffle at the moment. It's so much fun and my downstairs neighbors also have their fun.

Family and friends: Since I'm no longer using PMO I'm no longer ashamed of being myself. My real self. I'm more open and I'm more sincere concerning relationships with my inner circle. I spend time with others in order to do them something good. This is something I was never (consciously) willing to do since everything was just about my pleasure. I don't know your families but being around mine can be really exhausting.

Thankfulness: I miss the March challenge This really helped me focusing on what this life is about. Bering thankful for what you have.

Something higher than yourself: In my case it's my Christian believe. Wisdom is great and really helps me to understand the world and accomplish changes. But human wisdom has one tiny flaw and will always have. It's can't explain why we are here. What our purpose is. You can search and find something meaningful, be it art. But if you loose your ability to do art what then? And this goes for everything else. I struggled with this insight for very long. For me my believe is the answer to this question and this helps me focus on things that are not in front of me but have to be achieved with abstemiousness and believe and looking away from myself for once. So I read verses every day and this helps to start every day with positive thoughts.

Life is still not a piece of cake: I have some things missing in my life that I'd really like to have. But I have to learn that I won't get what I want immediately. That's not how real life works. My brain is still damaged in this area by years and years of dopamine overflow. So this is where I still struggle and have my biggest fights.

Women are special: So are men. We have to treat each other the way we want to be treated. Respectfully and just with love for the person inside. PMO makes you focus on the surface of things but the real beauty of almost everything lies under this first layer. I say to you as much as I say it to myself: Invest yourself in finding the beauty behind the curtain. You will be amazed and overwhelmed what this life has to offer. Fall for character and no appearance.

Love and respect for you my fellow Heirs. Stay strong in your fight. The sun is smiling over us.

 

By Heir: @jesusson

Well , i wanted to write this report to encourage folks on nofap.com or outside.

let's start with ( why i came to NoFap ) ?
well, to NoFap because my life was ruined from many positions.
i will discuss with no points as it seems better for me.
I lost my confidence , porn made me like a sex machine that wake up instead of saying good morning to God or even to my family members , i close my door and get read to have a high porn shot at morning.
Then , i spend all the day feeling ashamed , with no self esteem , because i was watching a non humanity sex , i was watching sex that i would never imagine that i would do it with anyone , i just wanted to get the pleasure from the scene no matter what will concentrate in my mind afterward .
-I started with normal porn .
-then found it boring so turned into hardcore.
-then found it boring so turned into odd staff like sex between same sex.
-then found it boring so turned into animals stuff.
-then found it boring so turned into disgusting stuff.
-then found it boring so turned into stuff that offend religions even my own religion.
-then found it boring so turned into prohibited relations between family members.
Soooo what ??? what else i am going to do ??? is that a human ?? How can i have confidence ??? i have break every moral i learned during my life , so how i can't lose my own self esteem and my confidence .
You know guys i was so ashamed of myself to the extend i can kill my self , and thought in suicide many times.
- I started to ask my self , Where are you in the world bro ? , do you even exist ?
where are your humble picture when you was 10 years old before falling in this shit ?
where are your community ?. and the answer was nothing .

So I decided to change this lame life , That's enough porn , it's my time now to shine.
I will be no more Slave to you . I will live in my own.

- Well, my journey was not easy , i have experienced too hard moments, i felt hard urges my journey , lemme split my journey into 3 parts.
-My first 30 days:
Well , those days was the hardest part of course , i felt lots of urges , and withdrawal symptoms.
Like feel anxiety , depressed , little lazy , and my first 12 days was with no color or odor , but every new day was better from the last one , till i reached 30 days.
-Then my second 30 days:
The withdrawal symptoms became less than before , but i had also urges as well , but i started to feel that i am more better than before , i started to gain confidence than before , my self esteem becoming more than before , and that's because i stopped doing things feels shame .
-Then my last 30 days .
It was totally different from the past days , i really started to feel that i own myself , and no more chains that pull me down as usual , my confidence , self esteem increased a lot more than before , i started to watch the world more clearer , i felt the clarity of the world , also i started to look for my life goals , but urges still exist for sure , but i gain more controlling skills to stop them from my past experience .

Important Tips:
1-The more you are determined the easier the rebooting will be .
2-Write Down your Goals on a paper , and read them every morning.
3-Write Down the reasons of why you want to stop porn.
4-Seek for help , and find an AP .
5-Stay positive and optimistic.

Last but not least , i want to tell you guys , that porn is not a solution , stop porn now before you waste your life and find yourself in more serious problems like ED or be unfaithful to your partner.
Pray for me , to Complete 120 days as next goal.
Love you guys .

 

By Heir: @black_coyote



Good going Heirs!!!