Tough Time

This one is a no brainer. Have some respect for yourself and move on. Unless we're taking about your wife or something( In that case, i would consider trying to work with her.), heal your feelings up and eventually find someone who respects you enough not to cheat on you.

There is absolutely no excuse for cheating and if she was selfish enough to do it in this case, she would probably do it again in the future. Even if she doesn't, you know youre gonna be all paranoid all the time. You don't want to intentionally put yourself through this again do you?

 

Wow, this sounds exactly like advice given to SOs of porn addicts, especially since many consider that cheating as well. Touche?

 

It's good advice. What benefit is there to being with someone who doesn't respect you enough not to cheat on you? Why should anyone continue in a relationship that destroys their confidence and requires them to look over your partner's shoulder, when there are other women and other options. This situation is clearly not adding value to the OPs life. Do you think this situation is going to have a positive effect on his porn addition and his personal developmement or a negative one?

I don't feel PMO equates to cheating but if an SO of a porn addicts felt t PMO equated to cheating then I would encourage them to apply my advice the same way. I wouldn't knock a woman who was prudent enough to cut ties with me if my deviant behavior began to impact her negatively, especially if we wern't married. Life is to short to get all wrapped up with people who are unwilling to show you respect.