Trading Porn Addiction for Sex Addiction

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Deleted Account, Nov 12, 2019.

  1. Does anyone have any experience with this?

    I feel like now that I haven't been watching porn I suddenly have been wanting to go back to my college lifestyle of random hookups several times a week. I think it's because it's a lot harder for me to reach O by myself without P and I hate the feeling of being aroused (for me, it triggers my gender dysphoria in a way that for whatever reason actual sex rarely does). So because I'm not watching P suddenly I'm aroused more without relief so I've been turning more toward hookup apps and going to bars etc to pick up women. This past week has been particularly bad in this regard.

    I don't necessarily have a moral opposition to this like I do to porn so in some ways I think it's better but objectively speaking I realize that it is probably not good for me and opens me up to STIs or worse.

    Do you think that this could potentially be solved by going for a full PMO reboot and abstaining from everything? I'm a little worried if I do that I'll be desperate and more likely to relapse back to porn which is really the thing I'm trying to avoid.

    I would really appreciate any thoughts you could share!
     
  2. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Your addiction can migrate in my opinion. It can Morph into other things. Not necessarily sexual.
    Sex addiction sucks. I am dealing with mine and it’s crazy to see how it bowls me over at times. I have spent retarded amounts of money because Of it.

    I would not encourage you to become more sexual. If possible —- use the Gains to develop new hobbies.

    I have done that to varying degrees and now am into video creation ; I am doing exercises in my hotel room to push myself away from sex addiction. I got into cooking my own food so as to give myself more thug a time focus on. I am seeing diet exercise music connecting with real people are good habits. I want to go back to memorizing the Bible but that’s impossible still.

    Also— I try to schedule more time in busy activities so I don’t go cruising for chicks.

    time management is huge part of sobriety. I have said before sobriety is boring and I think the dopamine effect is real.

    i have written a lot here and it’s helped. I have found a sex coach who has been helpful as well. I need to go back to having a dedicated AP. That helps. But definitely the best thing was getting around other addicts who can relate to deal with it. Porn addicts are helpful to a degree I find. But there’s a world of difference that sometimes makes us talk past each other.

    hang in there. Send me a dm I’d be happy to encourage you.
     
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