Trans and Sissy porn has hijacked my life, is it too late to return?

You have not offended me! Are you kidding??!?!??? Really???? I'm showing you... you. I'm placing a mirror in front of Jamis and allowing her to see and her how she sounds.

 

What does your gut want?
Just go with that.

The first answer to your questions that pops in your head is your gut feeling.
Anything else is just confusion.
Act on your first instincts yo.

 

I am going to challenge you so get ready for it. I am going challenge and than do it again until you speak intentionally and with thought.

You can get mad at me but I can take it but I think you know I am on your side and will be here when you think everyone has forgotten about you.

 

I am gay... it comes out at times. Ha!

 

I think the things I read on your post are the 'biggest steaming pile of sexist bullshit'. You can talk for yourself but not for another woman. Male and female brains are different, it's scientifically proven and not open for opinion.

I feel like conversing with grade schoolers.

 

Honestly Jamie (I say/write Jamie now because you obviously don't want to be James) I do think you are wrong on the forum.

When I see you writing about stuff I see no effort at all. The vibes I got from you until now:
1. You want attention.
2. You don't really want to change. You are just afraid of growing old as a woman and losing your 'power' as a pretty girl.
3. I think you are a very egocentric and narcisstic person.


You write stuff like:
"When your lipstick costs $48, you can't afford to be kissing guys that are losers."
"I am totally into BBS: Boys, Bags, and Shoes "

That makes me think you are very, very shallow and desperate for attention.

"My boyfriend is gone, I am alone and horny as f*ck, so I am going out dancing to a club w my friend Bernadette. I need some noise and some positive attention."

Nofap is about getting off p0rn and sex-related addiction. Obviously that is not your goal.
You should frequent a transgender forum or trans-related lgbt forums.

People here will talk to you with the goal in mind to help you get off an addiction and reverse effects p0rn may have caused. I don't think that will benefit you.

Honestly reading up until this point only makes me think you are here to flaunt your 'girliness' and self perceived hotness etc... and getting attention as a woman.

The issue here at hand is not about gender but personality.
I have 'issues' too, as everyone does, but I tackle them.
You also have 'issues' tackle them or don't that's up to you.

I understand you are scared and want/need help. I understand you have difficult decisions to make.
But what you are doing and have been doing on this forum has not been helping you at all.

You can 'hate' me for all I care. I won't sugarcoat things for you. That would be only making it worse in the longterm.
You need to wake up before it's too late.
Your identity's cornerstones are sexual thoughts and fantasies.
Ask yourself the right questions: Would you still want to be a girl if it meant being an 'ugly girl' ? What would you choose between being a hot guy or ugly girl?
Would you still want to be a girl when you are old?
Would you still want to be a girl if it meant having no sex for the rest of you life but you could have sex if you choose to be man?
Answered no 2 or 3 times? then think real hard about what that really means.

Greetings from a 'hot' guy.

 

Uh.... I will assume this is directed at me, since you quoted my statement, but tbh I am a little confused because your comment infers you took what I said and applied the opposite meaning to it..... which is weird so....?

This statement is ironic considering it is literally your personal opinion. I think the links I provided are sound. Basically the recent studies conclude that there are no definitive male or female brain characteristics, and that the majority of people display overlap in areas that were formally thought to be either exclusively "male" or "female". Also brains are quite plastic and the development and changes in structures are highly influenced by environment. Neuroscience can't definitively conclude what is nature vs. nurture and the sexes are socialized very differently from one another in most cultures. If you were to view a scan of a random brain, you would not be able to read, by that alone, the sex of the person. This is pertinent to discussions around sexism, because for decades the idea of an inferior female brain was pushed as a justification for the subjugation women. But I am sure all this talk of neuroscience and gender vs sex is making you feel like you're back in grade school right?

 

Yeah, I think you abusing the word sexist is sexist, got a problem with that?


too funny that every article about your great studies were written by women.

Also all three of your great links are quoting one, only one and the same study.

One study alone holds absolutely no evidence.

Directly taken from the study:
""Our study demonstrates that, although there are sex/gender differences in the brain, human brains do not belong to one of two distinct categories: male brain/female brain.""

I mean did you even read it?

The study says the brains of females and males are different but not completely different, like a different species.

Wow, what a great discovery.

And here are studies that refute your claim (multipe not just one)

http://www.cbc.ca/news/health/men-women-brains-difference-1.3473154

https://www.forbes.com/sites/davidd...en-are-different-very-different/#5848568349d2

https://www.nih.gov/news-events/new...als-how-differences-male-female-brains-emerge

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hope-relationships/201402/brain-differences-between-genders

http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/more-evidence-that-male-and-female-brains-are-wired-differently

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What i am tired of is people finding one random study reading it and declaring it the worlds universal truth, just so it can fit their convenient worldview.

And what makes me feel like back in grade school is conversing with people that argue like grade schoolers.


PS: Fuzzywaz don't mind answering my post, you already landed on my ignorelist and that will probs stay that way. Sorry, I just don't have time for you.

 

dude, this is exactly what i said...reading comprehension is not your strong suit is it?

I did this where exactly? No where in my statement was I declaring universal truth, I literally said that neuroscience is not conclusive on whether differences develop through nurture or nature. Also great links you posted. Did YOU actually read them because none of them refute or go against anything that was found in the other study. Again, maybe do a little work on reading comprehension. You are coming off very argumentatively here, while simultaneously failing to even establish a point, much less one that contradicts anything I've said. My troll radar is off the charts at this point so I won't be responding again. But good luck to you in your endeavor to rewire the changes you created in your brain connectivity by repeatedly exposing yourself to an environmental stimulus!

 

I respect that decision.
I don't like judging people. No judgement is ever justified. But sometimes even if it hurts right now, you have to in order to prevent longterm misery.

I don't know you as a person, I only have 'judged' you on the glimpse and limited view I got on you on this forum.

Sex reassignment surgery isn't a game and you wouldn't be the first to regret it. In my eyes, as long as you have an arousal addiction you are not ready to make that decision.

http://www.sexchangeregret.com/

http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2016/06/17166/

https://www.quora.com/How-common-is...d-sex-reassignment-surgery-to-regret-it-later

http://thefederalist.com/2015/08/19/transgender-regret-is-real-even-if-the-media-tell-you-otherwise/

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-s...r-regrets-sarah-lonsdale-reports-1512822.html


Living as a woman and transitioning MAY be right for you. I am not telling you to not do that. What I am saying is to make the decision after you unhooked from your addiction. That's up to you though.

You can think of me as the bad guy if that helps. I am not here to make you feel good, the reason I use my (valuable) time is to help you make the right decisions.
If you don't want that help, I am cool with that, tell me and I will leave you alone.

 

No, James is not in the wrong place at all! We all have a process we must go through to get to where we will end. His process is one that will take longer as he has to go through a process of dealing with PMO is is far different than most. I have seen far too many people on NoFap whose journey started out as one what did not look as progress is being made but with continued support, there is progress is made.

The last thing any of us can do is to discourage anyone from being here. We all came here at different places along our journey but eventually we all make it if we stick to it.

Do you not see how damaging it is to discourage anyone from being here? Just because the road does not look like yours or ones you've seen , please not discourage anyone. Some of your points may be valid but your delivery will ensure your message is never heard. Your tone may even have more validity if this new person had been on NoFap fap for 6 or 7 months rather than 6 or 7 days. There are far too many your approach of tough love may help but it does not serve everyone equally.

Please be mindfind of what you say because words have power and a powerful fuel used carelessly can cause much damage.

 

Wow, I do not know where to begin in a response to these ideas. It looks like everyone is out to mold Jamie into his or her interpretation of an "ideal type" NoFap member. Everyone has his or her own journey that led to this particular moment. I can relate to some of the experiences that Jamie went through in the past and can understand how difficult this lifestyle choice can be. Instead, the reactions all deal with people attacking a person who is just trying to feel comfortable in a new setting and think, on the website, about all of the thoughts and actions that happen throughout the day.

Some have said that they are not trying to judge, while directly judging. I thought that a person would not be judged for talking about his or her thoughts in relation to sexual desires and PMO. Then again, maybe people are worried about too much honesty that disagrees with his or her own interpretation of disclosure. I do not know another way to see this, when on someone else's introduction, another person specifically calls them 'narcissistic'. This comes without any personal attacks in the other direction prior to those comments. Sorry but this is unacceptable. The goal is to have a safe community where we all can try to improve upon ourselves through the avoidance of some aspect of PMO. THIS PROGRESSION IS NONLINEAR. I remember reading that somewhere. This experience is quite different for each person. And everyone is fighting his or her own personal demons that may never be seen by others. Please be a bit kinder to each other in the future.