Trapped inside fetishes.

I don't know if this is the right place to post this topic. If not, I'm sorry.

I'm curious if you people feel the same way as I or is it just me.
I feel like, if I go without O for a longer period of time, and eventually I relapse, I relapse to more risky materials. Thus, worsening my condition.

So I tried to avoid such situations, with M-ing without being too dangerously aroused. (So I can control myself and at least not watch things I wouldn't want to) It worked for a couple occasion, but its NO solution. Firstly because m-ing feels bad, and it has no benefits in the future.
Secondly, because it trains you to M more and more.

I need help with finding a solution NOT to relapse to risky materials at longer streaks. At least if you M, dont use P . Especially not hardcore P . I don't know why, I always see that people relapse on P or because of P. So I think it worths a topic on finding a method to reduce the damage upon failure.

What are your thoughts?

 

Congratulatons on winning the battle of your other addictions. And good luck with battleing PMO. Also Thanks for posting. Yes the endgoal is to avoid PMO completelly.

However I opened this post, since I find that after every longer cycle, I fall back more than I achieved. You see , the needier you are the more risk you take.
I could use ANY advice, on NOT falling even deeper into the addiction after each failure.
If you could share your experiences on battleing your other addictions perhaps?
Also, Is REALLY PMO, the hardest to overcome addiction? That means this community has the best addiction breakers of the world! how cool is that?

 

Maybe you can do it the same way as you did before. Have you tried? Don't bother with nofap, just do the straight edge cold turkey thing you did before with the drugs.
I wish for you that it will work.

I think it's a good idea to set boundaries the way you proposed.
Look, if you say "if I do masturbate at least I shouldn't look at porn" or "if I look at porn at least I shouldn't go for such and such fetishes and at least I shouldn't binge" that doesn't mean that you will masturbate or that you will look at porn. My point is, you can do both: go for hard mode AND moderate use. You just have to be careful. Our porn-addicted mind has ways to trick us. Know yourself!

I also want to abstain from both: P and M. And I would say hard mode is better than just moderation. But when hard mode fails moderation is important!