Triggered by women and girls

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Paraeinstein, Oct 16, 2019.

  1. Paraeinstein

    Paraeinstein Fapstronaut

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    Going through a phase where I am staying mostly indoors. When seeing a woman it turns me on now.
    I don't how things are about where you guys live, but here in UK and Ireland it is becoming more and more common where girls and women are wearing body tight clothing including yoga pants (leggings).
    Here in UK the girls are very polite and speak softly and when approached it adds more intensity to the urge.
    So going through a phase where I am trying to avoid eye contact even though there is a strong impulse to look (sometimes even twice). I don't know if lowering the gaze could backfire given that when it comes to the point where a girl would appear in front of me whether it would send my urges through the roof.
    I get the feeling that I am not the only one who has this issue. I would like to know from you guys how you managed these problems.
     
  2. romeolima

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    I'm not sure that shutting yourself inside and trying to avoid seeing women is going to help with anything. Surely the ultimate goal is to be able to have normal interactions with women without objectifying them. I don't think that you can do that by avoiding them altogether, it's only going to make it worse for you when you do have to interact with them.

    I do still have sexual thoughts when I see an attractive woman in the street, I'm not proud of them but I feel that they are lessening.
     
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  3. Paraeinstein

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    Yes this is true, but its a tricky one. Seeing women in everyday life can be risky and can put me at risk of relapse so I do question whether it is worth the risk. However, the main reason why we all do NoFap is not to escape from reality but to face it and be normal.

    I wonder what can be done if we are going outside to reduce or prevent urges from developing?
     
  4. romeolima

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    I think it depends what your urge is, is it just the images/thoughts in your head, then if you can deal with it then it's progress. I don't think that I ever want to be in a position to see an attractive woman and not be able to think, she's attractive. What I want to get out of my head is the "porn" thoughts, ie. what she looks like naked etc.
     

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