[triggers?] Could use some advice on texting, new to nofap

Hi all,

Im new to the site but not exactly to the challenge. I joined the site to get some advice. I put triggers just to be safe. If this is the wrong place for this, I'm sorry and could it please be moved to the proper spot? Thanks!

Basically noticed a problem with a former girlfriend last year. And I started to suspect PIED. Usually when I'm with someone I don't do any or a lot of PMO and after some months the problem got better. Not cured though. Anyway, since she and I broke it off I've been avoiding PMO with ups and downs (that chaser effect!). So P free for over half a year ( with the occasional realization that something I'm doing is not helping and stopping that behavior). I've also been cutting back on other stimulants like dating sites and I'm pretty careful about viewing any online content. I'm also trying to be mindful and gently turning my thoughts when I notice them straying. I guess I mostly used PMO as a tool against loneliness and depression after some tough life events. but I also grew up with it and have a long history of use and varied content. Sort of a lonely sad kid for a few reasons.

Anyway, I've been doing a lot of self-work lately. Meditation, therapy, stretching, gym... So this is another aspect of that. Building a positive attitude and pursuing interests.

Here's the issue. I had a friend over recently and we hooked up unexpectedly. It was great. Though still PIED. But so much fun and we did other stuff than just "the main event". She told me she had a fantastic time. (Though I did succumb to chaser once after, whoops!) We discussed and no relationship plans but we are friends. And it seems like it'll just be adding some physical fun to our friendship. And to be honest, if it developed into a relationship I'd be okay with that. If it doesn't, that's fine too. So we've been texting and I guess actually sort sexting. Nothing too explicit. Just some sly, teasing comments and banter.

I wouldn't be concerned if it was occasional but it's been frequent (which is fun, sure!). And possibly getting a tiny bit more direct. I feel I'm in total control. I know I won't M. Mostly I'm excited to maybe add some real sex into the reboot. But I'm concerned about the texting maybe holding it back and the lag time between texting and seeing her. Maybe I can slow the texting down once we hit a rhythm on meetups? Any thoughts would be helpful. Thanks all!