Trying this avenue for accountability

Hi. I'm new here, as you'd notice by the date of my registration or current lack of comments/posts on here. I'll give a little about myself and then about my situation.

I'm in my Christian, mid-30s, married for +4 years, no kids, and am trying to take a new career path by returning to education. Living with some family members while my wife works and I study. Hoping to get back into the workforce soon, as I hope to have completed a few important certifications.

My struggle is pornography. When I was young, my father introduced porn to me by claiming that I would eventually find a stack of his porn magazines in my parents' bedroom so he showed me where they were and told me to keep my door closed; I was maybe 10 or 11 when this happened. Since then, I've come to understand that my father introduced something life-changing (not in a good way) and highly addictive. As the internet become available, the obvious growth of the addiction happened as certain sites became accessible rather than the need for physical magazines. I've known that this was a problem by the time I could understand what an addiction was.

Shortly into my 20s I temporarily forfeited my electronics to a family member for about 60 days unless it was required for job applications or important emails, in which it was returned to me by I was able to use it for short periods of time and while someone else was in the room with a clear view to my screen. This ended up breaking the hardest part of the addiction, which was a hunger to view almost daily. Aside from that, I've also spoken to several preachers/pastors at my churches as well as other Christian men who struggle with porn themselves. I've heard many suggestions and tips to try and fight the urges and resist, which I can say has worked at least a majority of the time but I can't seem to stop altogether.

Over a decade later, I still look at it on occasion but don't see it as an addiction any longer. However my wife just found out that I still have looked at it since we've been married; she knew that I was once addicted to it but assumed that I hadn't since I told her that I had broken the addiction. This has caused a serious rift in our relationship, as she feels I have betrayed her trust. She hasn't said that she feels like I've cheated on her, but I've listened to her say that she feels unloved and unattractive now that she knows I've looked at porn since we've been married. We've never been this distant from each other but she says she wants to help me through it; she's just going through the various emotions of anger, depression, and such right now because it's such a fresh wound.

I'm wanting to use this as a way to help show her that I mean business in trying to kick this habit once and for all. I've never been part of a support group or discussion board where I can talk about this with people, so this is a new experience for me. I'm not sure if she and I will be intimate while this is going on, but I don't know if she realizes how difficult it will be to have no sexual release at all while trying to "reboot." So I guess this is gonna be a bit painful in the nethers until we can figure something out.

Anyway, sorry for the long read. I'd appreciate any encouragement and helpful suggestions you could provide. I'll be sure to bookmark this and check back regularly.

Thanks!
-C-