Hi my wife and I are trying for our 2nd baby, and with my historical ED issues (linked to PMO), it's frustrating. My wife and I don't have a good sex life; never have for 2 reasons: (1) my ED from PMO before we started dating; and (2) we were friends for years before we became intimate, and from the first time we had sex and ever since, I've felt so much pressure and haven't been confident, that it's been awkward. For years. How do I balance (1) rebooting; (2) not having ED, which for me I know is all about relaxing and taking the pressure of maintaining my erection off; (3) keep my wife happy, and be able to orgasm to fertilize. Like, I have been saying to her for a few days now: "Let's just focus on having fun. Maybe one night we just fool around, have some oral fun, we don't even need sex every time." But she's so disengaged from physical intimacy with me after years of me being about a 50/50 shot when we're in bed, and her vice is that she puts SO much pressure on having a baby. It's excessive, like my PMO and pressure to not have ED is excessive. So our vices and what we need from each other directly work against the other. Can anyone relate??