My SO and I have been together in a relationship two separate times and i left him the first time after 10 mos. because I got a phone call from a ladies husband about my bf having an online relationship with his wife. Almost 2 years later we got back together and I recently discovered he texted two sex workers while we were in the city (I had taken my kid to a concert). He's never had an o from sex and can only complete on me with help from porn. I can't touch him while he's trying to ejaculate. We did this for the last 9 months of our being together again. He has a tbi so I assumed this was just part of who he is and tried to accept it. Until i discovered the texts he'd sent trying to solicit sex. It then dawned on me, and through conversation with him that he might have DE brought on from years of consistent death grip, porn induced orgasms, and maybe that was why he seemed less interested in sex than me on a consistent basis. I almost always had to initiate and he couldn't keep an erection for very long. We have a great relationship outside of the sexual issues and betrayal and i do love him very much. He said he's stopped but he's still doing shady things, like sneaking out to his comp after i go to bed, and has a new, he thinks secret, email. Having read what I have I realize the pain and anger and anxiety might be something I'll have to deal with for years and I just don't know if I can. The recent betrayal brought up ptsd from a fucked up childhood and I already suffer from anxiety and seasonal depression. I love him but he only moved in a few months ago and maybe it is better for me and my kid if i cut and run. i guess I need hope? For others to weigh in with their experiences? I was so happy to find this forum because dealing with this has been so overwhelming. I'm driving myself crazy. Panic attacks. Can't sleep. I want to help him but I don't know what I can do if he doesn't really want to quit or seek out help. All the changes that have happened so far were initiated by me.