Trying to get over someone.

Stay strong bro. You realized you have a problem and are self aware enough to know what triggers it. That seems to be one of the the hardest parts. You have gotten help, and you’re doing everything right. This community is here for you. Congrats on your 3 days too! My short term advice it to find something to distract you early on.

 

Don't worry about it, sometimes everyone needs to vent a little and this is a great place for it.
Being as involved with programs as you are, you do have a plan you use. Keeping busy, trying new things and being out and away from being alone?

 

It’s all good man. I know exactly how you feel. I’m actually doing through a marital separation right now and tbh it’s probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’m hoping we can work things out and stay happily married but all this stress and depression from it makes me want to relapse hard, so bad. I keep praying and reading the Bible though. Best of luck to you.

 

I think there are a lot of us out there who use sex and porn to cope with losing someone on a emotional level. I can't bring myself to get over someone to the point that it is affecting future relationships, and I use sex to cope with the loneliness. It's good that you recognize that you need to learn to deal in a healthy way. That's really the first step. Congrats on all your success so far.

 

Put yourself first and not your addiction or thinking about her. Focus on what you want to do with your life. If she doesn't want you or care about you and the relationship is already over then be a man and move on. If you keep on thinking about it it only makes it harder to get over and you could end up saying or doing things that you shouldn't be doing.
Stop going on Tinder if you don't have any good intentions. How well has it worked out for you? If it isn't doing you anything then delete the app.