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Turned off from orgasms?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by manolo578, Jul 26, 2014.

  1. manolo578

    manolo578 Fapstronaut

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    I've been doing NoFap for 19 days now and yesterday I got a handjob and overall I feel like I'd just rather not orgasm at all with another person since then. That feeling of abstaining completely felt much better than allowing an orgasm every so often. Has anyone else experienced this too? It just seems to me that I'd rather just not orgasm at all and just harness that energy into other outlets because before yesterday I felt electric and today I just feel normal. I guess it's all about getting used to dealing with the urges. Does anyone think this could lead to asexuality by any chance?
     
  2. NoBrainer

    NoBrainer Distinguished Fapstronaut

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    Although I haven't engaged in sexual behaviour I can see where you're coming from. In my last streak of no M I felt great, plenty of energy, positive mind etc. Yet 8 days in I lapsed and fell back to square one. I didn't even want to orgasm, yet I felt compelled to and eventually gave in. The rest of the day (yesterday) felt awful- no energy, [NSFW]my penis felt too tender and wet (sorry for the gory details)[/NSFW]

    I think you will feel a lot better about orgasms once:
    1. Your hormone levels have returned back to normal and your reboot process is complete
    2. You find someone who you are willing to share your sexual energy with

    In my opinion, at the moment blowing all of your sexual energy in one go feels shit, because you feel like you're returning to your old ways (and physiologically maybe you are). But in the ideal situation, (once your reboot is complete) you will be used to living with pent up sexual energy, so discharging it would feel like a good thing.

    Since starting nofap I have realised how special sex is, and that I wouldn't want to have sex that often (as it's burning sexual energy), whereas before if I'd had a gf while PMOing, I'd be pestering her everyday :(

    Also I don't think your sexuality can be defined to your attitude towards orgasm. You got with this person in the first place (presumably by choice), therefore I'd say your sexuality corresponds to the gender of that person, (you didn't specify their gender)

    Have a good day
    NoBrainer
     
    Last edited: Jul 26, 2014
  3. manolo578

    manolo578 Fapstronaut

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    I see what you're saying here. It all depends on who I decide to share the energy with. It was a woman btw. I'll see how the rest of my journey goes.
     
  4. manolo578

    manolo578 Fapstronaut

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    The main thing I'm concerned sbout is that I'll end up preferring to just keep my sexual energy for myself and therefore affect my relationships in the process. How have others approached this in their own relationships?
     
  5. Hotshot

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    This hasn't happened to me personally. I have fully embraced the company of my girlfriend of 4 years. She is loving it.


    Good luck!
     
  6. manolo578

    manolo578 Fapstronaut

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    I'm mainly going off of the advice of SacredSexuality which is to remain abstinent for the duration of my reboot
     
  7. Hotshot

    Hotshot Fapstronaut

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    Okay. Everyone's journey is person specific. There are some here who believe viewing porn and not fapping is helping them. I am not here to judge what works and what doesn't, though. For me personally it's helping me significantly having sexual encounters with my GF VS doing a hard mode.
     

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