Ummm, I really like porn where woman are in control, what does it mean?

No idea. But I don't think it matters. Connect with your brothers on here. That is what you need. See my other posts for what is equally as important as will power. Cheers APCIA!

 

Doesn't matter. Porn can take your mind in directions that have nothing to do with your sexual preferences. There are other guys here who watched Gay Porn and that's what they PMO'd to. They are straight and have 0 desire to be with a man. Porn is simply not reality.

 

Like he said. porn isn't real don't read into it. I have pmoed to transgender p and hentai but I would never have sex with a trans or a cartoon. 15 days into my nofap and my natural desires for pretty women are coming back

 

This is definitely true, and something I have experienced myself. The other thing I'll add is that in the porn you're watching, it's all fake. The women in those videos aren't really "in control". They're just doing what some director (usually a man) told them to do. I'd suggest that most of those women probably wouldn't be there at all if circumstances hadn't forced them into it.

 

I still do not see how your question helps you to break free from PMO?

 

Hi Apcia. I have that leening + a heck lot more thanks to the internet.
It doesn't really matter where it comes from. I've had enough therapist all digging in the past untill my latest told me that's a mistake. Who cares where it comes from. The question is, what will you do with it?
I've let my F grow beyond what it originally was. It hyjacked my life and made me see stuff I regret. Now sometimes I think my F is 'me', but I've learned here it is not. It's grown to accomodate all the P on the net.

To answer your question: You are watching P and fantasising about your F for yourself. For it is your particular F. Doesn't matter what the contents of the F are.

 

Okay, can I why you are asking. As you said you have had these fantasies since you were young before P came into the picture. So, P might not really be the problem. It could be that you have experienced or seen women being abused or treated unjustly by men. Maybe it is your way of seeing them getting some justice by getting their revenge on them through humiliation. It maybe a messiah complex that seeks to pay for all the male shauvinism by being a subject of humiliation by women. Just my few thoughts

 

Hello apcia. Hmmmmm... I read through this thread and the comments. Before anything else, porn is porn, no matter what and we all have to stay away from it and don't even deal with it. Porn shouldn't be a reflection of our sexuality and sexual preferences, I think. Please allow me to share my opinion/analysis.

It's good to get to know yourself better. Self-awareness helps us to understand and deal with our emotions and behavior and even how we think. In your case, there are many reasons as to why you have a thing for such domination. Tombuktu gave a very interesting analysis, which is valid, based on your personal interpretation. For me, I think there may have been a moment in your life that your dominant female figure was not really dominant. Maybe she did not exercise discipline. It could also be the case that because the dominant female figure in your life was not strong and protective of you, you sought this figure in other females to satisfy that inner longing for a female that will protect and discipline you. Which may have led to a woman-dominated type of porn preference.

Behaviour cannot be explained using a single method or theory. It's multi-factorial to begin with. We can only give our analysis, but it is up to you what it really means. So that's how I look at it.

Either way, I hope you continue with your personal journey of staying clean from PMO for the time being.

 

One thing you need to realise is that fantasies of or actual sexual humiliation of yourself or another person is not not healthy and the answer to your hurts and wounds. You will still have to learn to deal with your pain and perhaps seek therapy at some point. Good luck

 

You gotta focus on your new goals, before i started on nofap i watched and pmo'd to trans domination so much that i eventually hooked up with two trans women, worst thing I've ever done, but i learned from my mistakes. I have been on nopfap and trying to reboot for over two weeks now and its going well, you can do it too.