Under the Influence during a Reboot

Hey guys,

I've been wondering about something as it really started affecting me since I started rebooting. I noticed that once I was well into the reboot (like 3-4 weeks in), things like alcohol and weed really started to influence me in ways that they wouldn't before. The effects felt amplified, like I was more vulnerable to my mind being distorted.

For example, even after one or two drinks at a party, I began to retreat into myself and become incommunicado. When I avoid drinking altogether, I have no problems communicating socially.

Last 4/20 my frat had a party and I was pretty high for it. I don't ever remember being as self-conscious and unable to want to start a conversation with anyone (not just girls but everyone). This has been happening to me when high and rebooting: I feel like an alien and just can't communicate.

I've never had these things severely affect my sociability before. Throughout college I've been drunk and/or high and have been plenty social.

Does anyone else experience these kinda things?

 

I'm not entirely sure what you mean, but I can understand the idea that people take these things because they're scared of being social.

I still like to drink from time to time, nothing crazy, but I do want to be able to enjoy myself and not have to deal with the intense reclusiveness that the alcohol seems to be causing while rebooting. I don't think I have any substance addiction problems so I don't see what could be wrong with it.

 

kosh32, I think I might have gone through what's going on for you. Just this last year I lived with 4 other guys and there were parties every single weekend. Now, I am not exaggerating when I say EVERY weekend. It was a bad idea, and we got robbed twice (shoulda learned the first time). But I would get drunk and especially high all the time (more high than drunk). And for the first 3 or 4 months I had no problem what so ever being high or drunk around people. I actually loved it. But as time went on, I think I realized that "I" wanted to get high because "I" liked the feeling. I started smoking weed and drinking with my friends, so I immediately associated it with being a social activity. But here is something I realized. Doing these things secluded me. I no longer cared about what my friends wanted to do, only what "I" wanted to do. I became more selfish about my wants and needs, and therefore when I smoked; most times I would jack off because I didn't care if my friends wanted to hang out with me, I just wanted to get the most out of my high, not waste the PRECIOUS few minutes I had with this high, and feel good. So needless to say smoking weed really didn't help my PMO problem I didn't recognize I had. So maybe the same thing is happening for, maybe not. But I do know that I quit, because really... going to parties and getting high as fuck (as fun as it is) is NOT interesting, and eventually becomes a self-centered agenda. Trust me, there really are way better things to do than drinking and smoking, you just need to find your passion or hobby that supersedes partying. And idk about you but when I get high or really drunk, my mind is going a mile a minute, and when I'm thinking like that it is easy for me to be influenced by other people's ideals and opinions, but I also think about everything I'm doing wrong in life or how much of a disappointment I might be to my family if they found out. So nonetheless smoking weed was not a good choice for me personally.

P.S. I'm not trying to undermine what SP Wild said, because I know that once I quit smoking weed and basically partying, I realized how that kind of stuff actually holds a person back from becoming who they really are and really tapping into their true potential. But I wouldn't say that your an idiot because you do this, because everyone makes these kind of choices at some point in their lives. So don't start looking down at people because your becoming a better person. Just remember 2 things, 1. No one is better than everyone else because of self improvement, it only shows you've fallen and want to get up, and 2. We are human, and we can make any choices we want, good or bad. The one thing we can't choose, though, are the consequences.

Best of luck man, and stay strong, you can do this!

 

Thanks 7thMandown, that helped clear it up for me.

I think you're right, these things don't contribute to growth of the person. Often times they hurt it because alcohol and weed are just the most common escape mechanisms of people my age (I'm guessing yours too). I always have a better time socializing stone cold sober now than I ever did before nofap.

What I was wondering about was whether these substances had amplified effects on you because of nofap or not. I just graduated from four years of pretty much non-stop partying (my school is a top 10 party school), and that also meant drinking every weekend and finding excuses to drink on weekdays as well.

Being at home for 6 months, I've been pretty much sober the entire time. The one or two times I have drank, I stuck to beer rather than Johnny Walker Red which I drank most of senior year. Partying while rebooting is NOT ideal, it leads to more wet dreams, and withdrawals+hangover=horrorfest.