UNIVERSITY, ANXIETY AND FAPPING - ADVICE NEEDED

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Mateus long

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Help. I need advice. In the past while i was working full time and living close to my girlfriend i clocked up a 110 day streak. Now i need help. Im now at university. I keep relapsing and struggle to get past one week porn and masturbation. It makes me feel very anxious after especially in this environment. Also the long distance relationship aspect does not help either. Any advice on how to make things better because i cannot fall back down in to that hole again. I feel like i’ve lost my motivation and am finding it really hard at the moment. Any advice appreciated thanks.
 
Maybe you should involve yourself in more activities so you can keep your mind off pmo. Working out is very effective and clears your mind. Eat healthy. Avoid junk food, processed drinks and stimulating spicy food, this is crucial. It makes the urges basically nonexistent. You can do this bro. Remember the reasons why you want to do this. When the urges come, literally say to yourself, 'i don't do that'. Ride it out man and you'll get to where you want. All the best bro.
 
There is no need for motivation if you truly understand the consequences of PMO.
You could stay away from porn 110 days, that means you know both sides. It’s your choice
 
Hello, good you came here for advice. Two items from me . Firstly your circumstances have changed if you are now at University. Think about what is now causing you to relapse - is it people around you, the pressure of new environment, easier access to P, different living arrangements etc. Whatever it is and it may be a few factors, one of your priorities should be to address whatever is now causing you to relapse, i.e, what triggers the thought process towards PM. Secondly, on motivation, what motivated you when you did 100 days+, can you tap into that again?
University is a great opportunity - don't lose yourself to PMO, you must do something and I say again , great you came here for help. We want you to succeed.
 
Mateus long said:
Help. I need advice. In the past while i was working full time and living close to my girlfriend i clocked up a 110 day streak. Now i need help. Im now at university. I keep relapsing and struggle to get past one week porn and masturbation. It makes me feel very anxious after especially in this environment. Also the long distance relationship aspect does not help either. Any advice on how to make things better because i cannot fall back down in to that hole again. I feel like i’ve lost my motivation and am finding it really hard at the moment. Any advice appreciated thanks.
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I would consider break up. Depending on how long you are going to be at the university.
 
Mateus long said:
Help. I need advice. In the past while i was working full time and living close to my girlfriend i clocked up a 110 day streak. Now i need help. Im now at university. I keep relapsing and struggle to get past one week porn and masturbation. It makes me feel very anxious after especially in this environment. Also the long distance relationship aspect does not help either. Any advice on how to make things better because i cannot fall back down in to that hole again. I feel like i’ve lost my motivation and am finding it really hard at the moment. Any advice appreciated thanks.
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damn son i'm in basically the same position as you!
 
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I would consider break up. Depending on how long you are going to be at the university.
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Really? I dont think that is the main reason, certainly a factor. I’m here for 3 years on and off but definitely dont want things to end yet and im happy in the relationship.
 
Olesaiyan said:
Maybe you should involve yourself in more activities so you can keep your mind off pmo. Working out is very effective and clears your mind. Eat healthy. Avoid junk food, processed drinks and stimulating spicy food, this is crucial. It makes the urges basically nonexistent. You can do this bro. Remember the reasons why you want to do this. When the urges come, literally say to yourself, 'i don't do that'. Ride it out man and you'll get to where you want. All the best bro.
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Thanks man, this is a big help
 
Mateus long said:
Really man, what are your struggles?
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I had a 300ish day streak that ended about half way through my first year of uni. I was doing physical labour as work before uni and never wanted to pmo. I'm now finishing second year, and haven't had a one week streak for months. I also feel like I have lost all my motivation. The first time seemed so much easier and I was so much more determined and focused. I don't have a girlfriend, never have had one and i'm pretty lonely. I'm grateful for my only real friend but she is a girl and I just wish I could find a nice guy friend to relate to, and a girlfriend to be my companion. I long for companionship. I have come a very long way socially but still get frustrated and feel like I don't fit in sometimes in social situations. I'm also scared of carrying an addiction with me throughout uni, becoming more and more depressed and lonely, and being a miserable single person when I turn 30.
 
300 day streak is really impressive man, be proud of yourself about that. But yeah it’s definitely hard. Today i’ve just tried to keep busy and study loads in an attempt to replicate the working environment and the busy routine that helped me move away from pmo. It’s definitely hard but hopefully the advice some of the guys have given will make a difference. All the best man
 
Reuby said:
I had a 300ish day streak that ended about half way through my first year of uni. I was doing physical labour as work before uni and never wanted to pmo. I'm now finishing second year, and haven't had a one week streak for months. I also feel like I have lost all my motivation. The first time seemed so much easier and I was so much more determined and focused. I don't have a girlfriend, never have had one and i'm pretty lonely. I'm grateful for my only real friend but she is a girl and I just wish I could find a nice guy friend to relate to, and a girlfriend to be my companion. I long for companionship. I have come a very long way socially but still get frustrated and feel like I don't fit in sometimes in social situations. I'm also scared of carrying an addiction with me throughout uni, becoming more and more depressed and lonely, and being a miserable single person when I turn 30.
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300 day streak is really impressive man, be proud of yourself about that. But yeah it’s definitely hard. Today i’ve just tried to keep busy and study loads in an attempt to replicate the working environment and the busy routine that helped me move away from pmo. It’s definitely hard but hopefully the advice some of the guys have given will make a difference. All the best man
 
And the social stuff is tricky, just keep trying and try to believe in youselt and you’ll get there eventually. Same with girls.
 
I don't know what to say but I have some idea of what you're going through since I was very anxious when at university. I ended up defering my last module and am currently taking a year out because I couldn't cope with studying at this current moment. Maybe defering might help. I waited until the last few months to defer and it would have been better if I had done it sooner.
 
tIoD said:
There is no need for motivation if you truly understand the consequences of PMO.
You could stay away from porn 110 days, that means you know both sides. It’s your choice
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Are wet dreams bad? Been having them nearly every week for 3 months, and Im not sure how I feel about it...Thanks in advance for your response!
 
Ravefist said:
Are wet dreams bad? Been having them nearly every week for 3 months, and Im not sure how I feel about it...Thanks in advance for your response!
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No, they are totally normal, last night I had a wet dream. Look, you were using your semen on constant basis, sometimes there was empty tank. So, level of spermatogenesis (production of sperm) was elevated to keep you potent to "reproduce" (Our poor brains think like that).
Now, when you stopped to use semen, cold turkey, production is still on, yes it goes to normal level but it takes time. When there is excessive amount of sperm in epididymis (where sperm is stored), our brain makes us to ejaculate.
Apart from that, if you are having wet dream because of Porn like dream, I mean, you are looking at porn in dream, that's also normal. Our fucked up brains are having good old time flashbacks, they will go away soon.
Keep strong dude and enjoy your wet dreams, they are not dangerous and ofc they don't count as Relapse. It's well known part of Rebooting.
 
Mateus long said:
Really? I dont think that is the main reason, certainly a factor. I’m here for 3 years on and off but definitely dont want things to end yet and im happy in the relationship.
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Well you are possibly giving up 3 years of sex tbh with a long distance relationship. Imo the reason you started pmoing is because of not having access to your girl and it's presenting a whole lot of uncertainty and new challenges that require a higher level of dicipline. I would simply ask yourself now if this is worth it. If so, great.
 
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