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Unspeakable, mind-altering, persistent sense of loneliness

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by EyesToSeeEarsToHear, Dec 17, 2017.

  1. EyesToSeeEarsToHear

    EyesToSeeEarsToHear Fapstronaut

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    A thread for me (and others) to express honest thoughts on the truly strange, ironic, painful and persistent sensation of loneliness experienced by humans in a world more interconnected by technology and nature for the convenience of humans than ever before.
     
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  2. EyesToSeeEarsToHear

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    Gf invited me to eat and hang at her aunt's place with her for the holidays.

    I sure enjoyed her presence a lot more 3 months ago. We had an issue I won't get into here.

    I work for Army Reserves and at work I don't rank highly yet so I rarely get to speak honestly about my feelings to any real people.

    Recently I've contemplated spending money an a real shrink aka therapist.

    Some people see therapy as a weak or embarrassing thing for men to do but I really don't care what someone who can't respect me thinks about anything lol man I don't
     
  3. ReZen8ster

    ReZen8ster Fapstronaut

    I have 3 kids and I’m recently divorced, with 50/50 custody On nights that I’m not with my kids, I am both relieved to be free of fathering duty and extremely lonely. Some nights I look online at dating websites and I have still not met anyone. Some nights I go to an AA meeting. I wish I knew how to own up to people, be a better friend, and maintain relationships. There is a part of me that enjoys being alone. There is a part of me that is lonely, for sure. I guess the last few years of sobriety, and living through a marital separation, then reconciliation, another separation and divorce is that it’s ok to feel. Sometimes feeling to opposing feelings at the same time. I have learned not to seek pleasure not avoid pain. But rather sit with it all, feel it and continue to work to be a better person. One day at a time. For now I’m not sure what is keeping me from masturbating, but that’s the part of me that I’m working on now. Not running away from loneliness with online porn, not indulging my self with unearned sexual rewards and pleasures. This is the grind in the middle and sometimes it’s lonely.
     
  4. ReZen8ster

    ReZen8ster Fapstronaut

    The Promises

    "If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through.
    We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.
    We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
    We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace.
    No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.
    That feeling of uselessness and self pity will disappear.
    We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.
    Self-seeking will slip away.
    Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.
    Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.
    We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.
    We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
    Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us—sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly.
    They will always materialize if we work for them.
    "

    I think we can all understand what the Selfish and Self Seeking is in terms of P,M,O. Some people have a hard time with the word GOD, but often it mean a "Higher Power". Substitute the words "NOFAP.com" for the word GOD. Work. Work. Work.
     
  5. EyesToSeeEarsToHear

    EyesToSeeEarsToHear Fapstronaut

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    Those Promises make a lot of sense to me.
    "Work. Work. Work." I have to agree here.

    It's always nice to see people speak practically like this.

    I envy you for having three kids. I'd love to raise a strong, happy, independent son.
     
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  6. ReZen8ster

    ReZen8ster Fapstronaut

    I don’t think I made it clear but those are the promises as outlined by Alcoholic Anonymous.
     
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  7. EyesToSeeEarsToHear

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    Right sir. Actually I've seen them before.

    My first gf had a brother who was familiar with them. Tragic how he past away he was a very well respected father and medical professional. A violent young man killed him at a party she didn't want him to attend.
     
  8. ReZen8ster

    ReZen8ster Fapstronaut

    Sorry to hear that. Tragic.
     
  9. I sort of experience that pain of loneliness once of day, like that physical low pit in your stomach kind of feeling. I'm thinking the longer I experience this pain the more I will feel love is just a thing never meant for me and only for others. At least I have your cool name and quote to help me get through the thick of it.
     
  10. EyesToSeeEarsToHear

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    I think avoiding p and m is helping me get very comfortable w/ this loneliness I deal with.

    I still feel very alone most of the time but the pain is not like it was. It has lessened. My head is doing new things with this feeling.
     

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