Urgent Advice Needed

TheSilentMajority

TheSilentMajority

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Does anyone have any advice when hard-rebooting? The longest I have ever gone is eight days, and then I relapsed because PMO was constantly on my mind and I couldn't think of anything else. Does anyone have any advice for this? I have hit rock-bottom and am trying to claw my way out...
 
Just keep a distance from your phone or PC in which you are watching porn.Control yourself.If you succeeded in keeping your phone away from you and just using it for urgent calls only then I believe you can go more than 8 days.I M on 25th day due to this.Try to be with family more and avoid being alone.Best wishes.
 
I'd suggest coming here everyday during your "reboot"; interact, post, share your struggles, help someone if you can. Second, recognize your triggers. Come up with a plan to deal with them. Create new routines and habits that supersede your usual PMO activities; like exercise, reading, socializing, etc.

Most importantly.....breathe. Your addicted mind is making you feel like PMO is the most important thing in the world, that you can't function without it. It's a lie. You have to constantly fight that lie until it eventually fades into the background noise. Right now, I'm sure that seems impossible to you because that voice is screaming inside your head; but, the more you fight it, the quieter it will eventually become.
 
I understand where you are coming from, when you have used pmo for so long, it becomes kind of a pillar in your life. Just getting rid of it is great, but you are used to it being there, and always seem to gravitate towards on those late nights/boring afternoons. The people above me are very correct, you need to create new habits, learn new things, and create a new life. But that being said, it is still hard when all your brain wants to think about is porn. My advice for those spots where you seem to be alone with you phone and can't get away is memes. I'm being serious. Yeah it is stupid, but those funny pictures online, short stories, or even those stupid buzzfeed quizzes can provide that instant gratification you need to keep the more animalistic part of your brain satisfied. This isn't a long term solution, it is just a quick fix to distract yourself from pmo while you open you nofap in another tab and build the willpower to get off the computer.
anyway, just my two cents, hope that helps.
 
JUST REMEMBER DELTA FOSB IS A PROTEIN WHICH IS OVEREXPRESSED IN YOUR BRAIN IN EVERY ADDICTION AND IT TAKES MONTHS FOR THAT SWITCH TO TURN OFF EVEN YEARS NEXT TIME U GET URGES REMEMBER THIS IS SCIENTIFIC RESEARCH ON BEHAVIOURAL ADDICTIONS NOT MY POINT OF VIEW.ALSO I HAVE JUST FINISHED DAY 9 OF NOPMO :)
 
It sounds like you might need a stronger plan, a relapse prevention plan. Here are a few ideas.

Write down the bad things you have felt or that have affected others...the reasons you want to walk away from this behaviour.
Write down the good things you want or that you want for others...the reason you want to walk towards better behaviours.
Those two lists are your reminders. You'll need them when your brain starts to tell you you're safe to PMO again.

On the other side of the paper
Make a list of things in red ink that trigger you, stay away from those things totally.
Make a list of things in yellow ink that lead you towards triggers, be cautious of those and stay away as often as you can.
Make a list of things in green ink that lead you away from triggers and can save you. Healthy activities, safe activities.

Fold up this paper, and carry it in your pocket every single day. As you observe yourself from day to day and you become aware of more items, write them down. Every time you feel the paper in your pocket, remember your goal.

No one said this will be easy, in fact, everyone says it's very difficult. Use tools as often as you can.
 
CamScott said:
It sounds like you might need a stronger plan, a relapse prevention plan. Here are a few ideas.

Write down the bad things you have felt or that have affected others...the reasons you want to walk away from this behaviour.
Write down the good things you want or that you want for others...the reason you want to walk towards better behaviours.
Those two lists are your reminders. You'll need them when your brain starts to tell you you're safe to PMO again.

On the other side of the paper
Make a list of things in red ink that trigger you, stay away from those things totally.
Make a list of things in yellow ink that lead you towards triggers, be cautious of those and stay away as often as you can.
Make a list of things in green ink that lead you away from triggers and can save you. Healthy activities, safe activities.

Fold up this paper, and carry it in your pocket every single day. As you observe yourself from day to day and you become aware of more items, write them down. Every time you feel the paper in your pocket, remember your goal.

No one said this will be easy, in fact, everyone says it's very difficult. Use tools as often as you can.
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TheSilentMajority said:
The longest I have ever gone is eight days, and then I relapsed because PMO was constantly on my mind and I couldn't think of anything else
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you have to see this: porn has been on your mind and you have been entertaining porn in your head. that imagery wont go away for a while. and the wanting it wont go away for a few months. so u have to just keep trying to quit. eventually it will happen. there are no short cuts.
 
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