urges are coming back

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by joarev85, Mar 6, 2016.

  1. joarev85

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    Hello. Today I have urges. The urges of P on my brain. Fantazising. The urges to fap. . Today I will fight the urges. I have obstained PMO for over 14 days so why not push even one day more? Not easy to deal with the thoughts though. I experience that the strongest urges appears at Sunday morning.
     
  2. mzalazar

    mzalazar New Fapstronaut

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    Same here... is strong at Sunday morning... but we must fight this b*llsh*t, is a ghost in our brain and we must kill it, i'm going to win this WAR.
     
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  3. Saturdaze

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    My sponsor tells me to do whatever it takes on Sunday mornings to avoid being on the computer. Leave the house, go out for coffee, go for a walk, go to a movie. It gets easier after about day 30 but the urges will be there so be prepared. Sometimes they are really strong, sometimes not so much. As your brain gets rewired things do change.
     
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    1. Thanks for the replies! I managed to push it further, but still have the evening left. Now I know that I not relapse today.
     
  5. Yesodi

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    Listen to your sponsor's great advice.

    I'd also add: urinate frequently! A non-empty bladder can contribute very significantly to those urges!
     
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  6. Exxz

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    Just don't feed the wrong wolf. Ignore the pornography. Do something that is productive, or willing to distract you. If you catch yourself fantasizing.. tell yourself this: "What is the point of relapsing if NoFap is going to make me a better man, which will actually have girls wanting to have sex with me?"
     
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  7. adam1992

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    We are all going to win it bro!!
     
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    Urges can be the most horrible thing. Early mornings are a killer. I wake up when it gets light and my brain wants to taunt me with replays of ex partners, situations I've been involved in, favourite porn sites or clips or fantasies about the future and no matter what I can not shut it down or quieten it unless I give in then a brief reprieve of an hour or two before it floods back with even more ideas. That is why not entertaining it to start with is the best idea of all. Not even just once as it wil be back with a vengeance and at that point it will want more and mire and never be satisfied.

    There is also a great sense of relief by not doing it but we do not see that at the time.
     
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  9. Adylad63

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    That's a view I would certainly concur with. Keeping the bladder regularly emptied isn't a complete solution but it certainly helps a great deal due to the way muscles and nerve endings operate down below.
     
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  10. joarev85

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    And now I have morning wood every morning. That's part of the rebooting process right?
     
  11. Adylad63

    Adylad63 New Fapstronaut

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    No morning wood isn't part of the rebooting process. It's related to having a full bladder early in the morning and is a natural consequence of sphincter muscles tightening to keep the urine in. If you're a young man it can't be avoided completely but limiting your fluid intake during the evening (you can compensate for that during the day), making sure your bladder's thoroughly emptied before immediately before bed and, that you go for a wee if you wake in the night, should help greatly. Once you hit middle age you'll more than likely find you have to get up at least once most nights (I certainly do) and early morning wood will become a rarity if it happens at all.
     
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  12. Yesodi

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    @Adylad63, may I ask if are you a doctor? I find your info on rarity of miďdle-age morning-wood -- which seems to cone from a position of medical authority -- very reassuring.

    With me, it is indeed a rarity, but I do/did not know if this was abnormal or not -- perhaps related to my previous problems with ED, or to the flatline resulting from my upcoming 180-day streak (later today).
     
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  13. joarev85

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    Thank you for the reply! I have just noticed that there many in here that write about morning-wood as part of the rebooting process. I find it a little strange though because after a relapse I never have any mornin-wood, but after some weeks this appears.
     

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