Using fleshlight

Why would you think a fleshlight will help you give up porn?? It's a toy for masturbation, it goes hand in hand with porn.
You may even get more addicted as it feels better than your hand for sure

 

Good for you. You identified a problem and solved it. Keep it up.

 

This!

I haven't tried the real deal, but I had other toys in the past, I'm sure those toys are becoming fancy and are well made. But it it something to better treat yourself when you are single, not exactly a platform to stimulate you to go out.

I gather that some guys would like to "practice" with something inanimate first before doing the real thing, maybe to avoid building up performance anxiety? I find that using a man toy like that sends him a message "you are forced to use synthetic, cause its the only option" and its not good for the self-esteem.

My 2 cents.

 

As my husband and I have practiced karezza (see link in my signature) I've learned that hard and fast is not always the best! I'm here to reinforce that what you see on movies and porn is NOT reality. Don't fall for the lies.

 

Jacking off or using a fleshlight is not going to develop your muscles or get you in shape, lol. Your dick doesn't need to be worked out, it's probably the one part of your body that gets stronger when you don't use it. I don't know about those claims of exercises for the penis, but I think you probably already know that excessive jacking off does not lead to stronger erections.

If you want to get fit, work out! Lift weights, deadlifts will give you all the hip strength you will ever need. You will be able to break your partner in half if you want to, lol.


As for PIED. Most of what people are talking about here is PIED due to porn addiction and no longer being stimulated[ getting erections] by real partners instead of porn. I've heard about the fleshlight being used to treat something called "death grip" where apparently the penis becomes desensitized due to grabbing it too tightly while masturbating [deathgrip] and it becomes desensitized and very difficult to achieve orgasm [ to blow your load] while having regular sex due to your being used to the tight grip and vigorous stroking the softer vagina is no longer as stimulating. This doesn't sound like PIED but rather trouble or taking too long to achieve orgasm while having sex. If you want to last a long time maybe not the worst thing, assuming you can keep it up?

As already mentioned by a previous poster using a sex toy is pretty humiliating, and I don't think you will be doing yourself any favors using one. I would stop watching porn as well as stop masturbating. The urge to Jackoff goes away in time. I didn't jack off in my teens and twenties, and I had no desire to do it. The longer you abstain the less you will desire it.

 

I’ve considered using a fleshlight but always talked myself out of it. For me any substitute for the real thing probably isn’t a good idea. It’s basically another form of porn. I don’t really have a problem with toys or masterbation in the general sense. But if your goal is to have a meaningful intimate and sexual relationship with someone special, I think all these things can get in the way and interfere. For example, lets say you are home alone one night and horny. You’re not sure what to do. You’re kind of tired and unsure. You could A: Go to your favorite coffee shop and read a book or B: Use your fleshlight and go to sleep. I mean do you see where I’m going with this? You could actually meet someone real at the coffee shop or at least make a new friend or at the very least have a nice intellectual experience. But using your fleshlight is just replacing a real experience in my opinion. Believe it or not I am still curious to try one, but for this reason I always shy away.

 

The coffe shop example was gold!

 

I was in the same boat as well, I thought buying a "pocket pussy"(smaller version of a flesh light) two summers ago would helped me not look at porn anymore as well cause I have something to look at and something that may feel like "real thing" but I wrong though it only enhanced my desire to look more cause it still part of viewing. Never less I didn't have it very long and I believe that sec toys are a big no no.

 

Does it even feel like the real thing? It can't contract or get more wet as you go. Also a real vagina isn't equally soft everywhere. Some things you just can't replicate with plastic.

 

The worse is that right after you come in those things, because you already feel that drop of sexual interest after orgasm, you look at it for what it is...a device...then you have to clean it....and its like jeez, a darn tool.

 

And you gotta let it dry.
And all the preparation like warming it up etc before use.
And the most tricky part... trying to hide a 7-10 inch glossy black cone if you want it to be secret.

Nobody in their right mind would ever assume it to be a torch at first glance lol.