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'Using' nude photos of your current partner after reboot?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Omnitron310, Jan 7, 2018.

  1. Omnitron310

    Omnitron310 Fapstronaut

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    This is a question that occurred to me recently. It won't be an issue for me for a while yet for me, but long-term, I'd be interested to hear other people's opinions. My question is: Do people think it's okay to 'use' (ie. view, get aroused by, and potentially masturbate to) nude photos of your current partner?

    During the time we have been together, my girlfriend has sent me several nude photos. Nothing super explicit (she isn't really the exhibitionist type), but you can see everything. Before I decided to quit PMO and began my current streak, I would sometimes use them in my M sessions. I was often surprised to find that even though they are very 'tame' compared to lots of the more extreme P I was regularly watching (and that was videos whereas these are just pictures) I still had a strong reaction to them.

    I should point out that me and my girlfriend are long distance, which means we don't get to meet in person very often, so stuff like this is one of the ways we share intimacy when we're apart (being apart a lot at least means that I can do hard mode easily, but it also increases the temptation to M since I don't have a partner to get relief with). I think this is the main reason I react strongly to these pictures; the emotional connection. Firstly, they are of a 'real' person (no photoshop, no studio lighting, no fake implants, and no caked-on makeup beyond what she usually wears) who I have seen, met, and slept with in real life. Secondly, they represent a bond of trust and love; she trusts me to keep them safe and private, and loves me enough to be willing to do something like that to please me.

    At the moment I'm not looking at them at since I'm abstaining from all PMO. But, assuming I manage to maintain my streak and reboot successfully, do people think it would be okay for me to use them again? I'm torn because, on the one hand, it's still viewing explicit images on a screen and jerking yourself off rather than being with a real person, so in that way it's very similar to porn. But on the other hand, there is an emotional connection there that is absent with porn, and it also does not create any fake expectations or have the hurtful effect of 'cheating' since it's all real photos of my actual partner. Perhaps it helps reinforce the beauty of and my attraction to my girlfriend?

    Thoughts? Anyone been in a similar situation, and if so, what did you do?
     
  2. Onehope

    Onehope Fapstronaut

    I understand being in a long distance relationship can be tough, but M to pictures, videos, this dissasociates you from reality.

    I understand you need to have some intimacy with your gf, but without her present it isnt really intimacy, you are simply settling for less.

    You could possibly engage with her on the phone or webcam, this is the closest to reality you can get, and at the same time learn to not masturbate unless your partner is present, I think we should save our orgasms to a partner and not alone in a room with pictures.
     
  3. Dillby-dude

    Dillby-dude Fapstronaut

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    Fuuuuuuuuuuck no dude! I was masturbating to videos of my partner while she was away and before I knew it I was going through the motions of pmo again. I started getting the urges to view more explicit content and to masturbate more regularly. It’s a gateway back to pmo man, forget it. The sex will be soooo much better when you see her next.
     
  4. memo

    memo Fapstronaut

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    It's cliche to say, but this would represent a slippery slope! I've crashed and reverted back to porn after using images from the real life sexual experiences. You may have solid willpower by resisting to look at harder images, but it's easy to fall back into bad habits (even after rebooting). I would suggest staying 100% clean until you could see your partner, or consider taking a break in the relationship to find someone closer- just my two cents
     
  5. El_Macho

    El_Macho Fapstronaut

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    Hold back on it, when the time comes, you’ll have the most amazing orgasm, don’t PMO! Hopefully she’s able to swallow it all...lol!
     
  6. Fallensoldier1

    Fallensoldier1 Fapstronaut

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    I was curious about this as well. As hard as it is it sounds like no M would be better. But a long distance relationship is hard too I imagine. Tough one!
     

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