Using PMO to hide/run from emotions

Very good post, I too am an alcoholic but have not had a drink for many years. I think that alcohol abuse and PMO Are virtually the same.

 

and that's how addiction forms as it has for most of us, we look for an artificial remedy but in truth it is only a plaster that never sticks which we have to keep putting on each time. The key is to cure the infection not to cover it up and to do that we need support and to be able to talk about our emotions, let off steam in a healthy productive way and find new ways of fulfilling ourselves rather than new ways to find pleasure because pleasure is temporary

 

Aye, for me PMO was always a crutch. Loneliness, sadness, fear, anxiety, insecurity. It's what I used to escape during my childhood, little did I know it only made these problems more severe. It is an extremely unhealthy relationship to have with your own body, and can lead to some disgusting developments.
I wish you luck in overcoming it, I hope you can do the same for me, god knows I need it.

 

That's a strong post. I got to understand that masturbation isn't the problem. And, after a long time, I understood that porn isn't the problem. Not even chats, which can sound absurd! My personal problem is that PMO joint with relational problems with girls have made me not evolving. We used to PMO, when we were 14/15. Then other people started to move towards girls, I remained in the same habits as before.
I did in the last year a lot of work, Hard Mode of NoFap was a part of it, and I developed the mentality of finding a partner, in the end. It was a hard task, but I did it in the end.
What I am doing now is cultivating this part, as I am building a relational part from nothing. As long as I will not have a relation, it will be OK, but I will have to cultivate this mentality, by going no porn and no chats (for me)

 

Yes, its usually that, addiction grows because we have nothing else which makes us feel better. Alot of thing can make us feel this way. It took me a while to realize that PMO by itself might not solve my problems but at least it makes it easier to face them. Little steps, little improvements are something we can do.

 

I can somehow relate to this,. after a long tiring day full of different negative emotions, i used to do PMO and after that i feel emotionally numb but deep in me is a lot more sadness, regrets and disappointment. Because of this post, i understand some reasons why i keep doing PMO but i keep trying my best not to do it anymore. Thanks for this post. Great Job! Good Luck to us

 

Same here, sometimes i'd come home feeling like a failure, and PMO'd it up. Seemed to numb the pain, if only i'd known what it had in store for me.

 

It is an escape from our problem, at least IMHO

 

For me, porn provided (what I thought) was excitement in an otherwise boring life. Finally, I realized that I deferred to porn because I didn't want to face my life/myself.

 

Yeah, since a certain moment I suppose that porn has become a way to escape from my personal development. Why boring myself to improve in order to find a so while I had porn available?

 

Well said,
I feel the exact same way. I've suppressed emotions for years. I grew up in a family where men didn't cry. Then went into the military which is oh so helpful with emotional maturity (sarcasm). It finally got me when my dad said a while ago "I couldn't change the world so I had to change myself". And he is one tough old bastard.

 

Great thread guys, Getting educated about my condition has been very important to me and I am greatful to nofap did this. I am amazed at how long we can live in oblivion with PMO, we are completely unaware of how it is transforming us into something we don’t want to be. When I look back at the relationship problems that I have experienced in life, I’m saddened because all those who got hurt didn’t really stand chance, they didn’t know what they were dealing with and I didn’t know was dealing with. Porn kills relationships & it deadens those who use it. I have a long road in front of me but I have to be honest I’m kind of inspired now to travel it. For the first time in my life I feel like I have the tools to deal with this and I understand so much more than I ever did. My goal is to be sexually healthy, to live in a healthy functioning relationship. I know I cant make up the ground that I have already covered but I can certainly make sure that the rest of the road I travel will be different. We should all feel fortunate that we can reboot & start a new. This form is a blessing. Thanks

 

And that's why you have to heal yourself after that traumatic event. I mean this addiction is just a manifestation of something underlying, something unsolved. It's a call deep inside, begging us to heal ourselves. Unless we heal ourselves, or we will never escape this addiction.
So I switch my attention to the other problem of my life. I investigate to the past, to the events that could possibly underrated and caused the trouble. And even when I relapse, I feel more sympathy for myself because I know that I need to fix the other things.
Guys, why some people watch P and never have any problem with it while some of us seem so vulnerable to it? There must be something in common. That's the question I asked myself when I tried to find another answer for this riddle.

Peace.

 

bro I agree to that strongly ,cause I also do pmo even there is no arousal everyday.

 

It's true. I accepted that these streaks are cycles that are very likely to end with a reset (trying to get the difference between reset and relapse) until I will solve all my personal issues. Now one remains, the last one.

I have two tasks, in this new view: the first one is to stand as much as I can, my obj is still not having resets nor relapses. The second one is that I have to react whenever I reset, going for a new streak.