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Icandoit. · Dec 20, 2017

I am a 32-year old guy. I watched porn may be at the age of 16-17. After that, I couldn't be able to leave it completely. Though I planned several times, but after a month or 2 again started pornography and masturbation.
I am above average guy with respect to confidence and talking with girls. I can say at 7or 8 out of 10 in confidence. What happens with me that when I start talking with girls in public, I am scared of going on date, Instead of pursuing date I come to a room and watch porn which most of the time leads to masturbation. After that, until one week I feel depressed and repent of my wrongdoing. I hardly manage to restrain myself from porn until 2-3 weeks. Which unable me to make or go into any good relationship.

I really want to get rid of my this habit and want to have a real relationship. Can someone guide or help me how to solve this problem?

Deleted Account · Dec 20, 2017

Hey @kalyani ,

Welcome to NoFap! You are in the right place. My experience here is that I needed to learn the program and also get involved with the community.

You aren't that old, trust me! I'll let you look at my profile to find my age.

The best resource I found was the “Getting Started with NoFap” guide. It is on the NoFap homepage and you can download it for free from this link https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/

Then, watch this video:

It is really good and explains so much about how the blasting of porn images into the brain in high definition on high speed internet while slamming porn sounds into the ears with headphones can literally change the way your brain demands sexual stimulation.

The video explains it better than I can.

Also, a great page is https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/ my experience is that by reading every link and watching every video, I learned so much.

Then, I got involved with the community. I'm not anyone special on here, I don't have any magic powers. But, I can say hello to new members, post my journal entries, remember to “like” peoples posts, and offer my experience, strength and hope where appropriate.

Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

L

Deleted Account · Dec 20, 2017

One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Click "Watch Tread" in the upper right to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

@Visor Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/

@I_can_and_I_will Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/138959/

@weddingnails Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143418/

@MLMVSS Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/142945/

@Struggle Bug Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/141911/

@Roady Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/137524/

@BigDawg913 Journal's at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/

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There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are a great place to start.

This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

L

I_can_and_I_will · Dec 20, 2017

kalyani said: ↑

I am a 32-year old guy. I watched porn may be at the age of 16-17. After that, I couldn't be able to leave it completely. Though I planned several times, but after a month or 2 again started pornography and masturbation.
I am above average guy with respect to confidence and talking with girls. I can say at 7or 8 out of 10 in confidence. What happens with me that when I start talking with girls in public, I am scared of going on date, Instead of pursuing date I come to a room and watch porn which most of the time leads to masturbation. After that, until one week I feel depressed and repent of my wrongdoing. I hardly manage to restrain myself from porn until 2-3 weeks. Which unable me to make or go into any good relationship.

I really want to get rid of my this habit and want to have a real relationship. Can someone guide or help me how to solve this problem?
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Hey bud, welcome to NoFap Firstly, mentally decide to stay away from porn forever. Then start a streak and keep going. It's that simple. But super hard to implement. It will get easier though because there are a lot of supportive people here to help you stay away from porn and motivated. Good luck!

Crimson Guard · Dec 20, 2017

kalyani said: ↑

I am a 32-year old guy. I watched porn may be at the age of 16-17. After that, I couldn't be able to leave it completely. Though I planned several times, but after a month or 2 again started pornography and masturbation.
I am above average guy with respect to confidence and talking with girls. I can say at 7or 8 out of 10 in confidence. What happens with me that when I start talking with girls in public, I am scared of going on date, Instead of pursuing date I come to a room and watch porn which most of the time leads to masturbation. After that, until one week I feel depressed and repent of my wrongdoing. I hardly manage to restrain myself from porn until 2-3 weeks. Which unable me to make or go into any good relationship.

I really want to get rid of my this habit and want to have a real relationship. Can someone guide or help me how to solve this problem?
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I'll tell you what will truly solve your problems. If you believe in a divinity, pray for your problem. It'll help you, I guarantee you. Always think that you are a champion and that you will succeed. I started my journey yesterday, we can do it together, is like a competition, look at it like a game, you have only one life, if you die, you're gone. Don't die, stay alive, without P or M! Stay strong, and click the PANIC BUTTON when feeling that the urge comes!

Roady · Dec 20, 2017

Hi @kalyani
Thanks for being here. Welcome!
Leaving an addictive habit is not an easy job, but .... the truth will make you free.
So... get some knowledge, read stories, let yourself encouraged by others.
You are not alone in this.So connecting to others is a clue as well!
And don't forget to create a journal.
Writing about your daily stuff may really help you to process the issues.
Good luck!

Icandoit. · Dec 20, 2017

I am Thankful to all of you. The effort you are saying pop up in my mind another way, If I go back to 1.5 years, I was a very coward person. I do not even have the courage to talk to strangers even if I ask someone about the direction I feel my hands trembling. I put a lot of effort on that matter and now I consider myself a courageous person with respect to talking with strangers in public places especially. I used you tube videos and other study material to get over my problem of shyness.

I believe the thing that "If you dream it you can do it". With this intention, I am here. GOD has given a human a lot of power. The actual thing is how and where we use it. I hope to get some help from you guys and help you with my skills.

Offcourse to achieve anything simple or complex thing We need effort. Here I am for this effort.

Protagoras · Dec 20, 2017

You are in the right place. Welcome. Here are some thing working for me.

Icandoit. · Dec 22, 2017

Crimson Guard said: ↑

I'll tell you what will truly solve your problems. If you believe in a divinity, pray for your problem. It'll help you, I guarantee you. Always think that you are a champion and that you will succeed. I started my journey yesterday, we can do it together, is like a competition, look at it like a game, you have only one life, if you die, you're gone. Don't die, stay alive, without P or M! Stay strong, and click the PANIC BUTTON when feeling that the urge comes!
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I like your motivation. I am also motivated now. Yes, I am Muslim and Believe on GOD. At this moment I am trying my level best to find the ways beside being Muslim. During past two days I have read alot about this. How this porn and M addiction is effecting our relations with family, Friends and it is not only eating our mind and body inside but also affecting our thinking ability, putting in depression and many more things which we do not realize as it is doing its work slowly slowly. Even most of the porn stars use a lot of drugs.
I hope our this Journey will lead toward something great.

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