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Vicious Cycle

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Iggy, Jun 24, 2014.

  1. Iggy

    Iggy Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys I was wondering if you could offer any advice to me.

    I've been trying to stop pmo hardmode since January and from May I managed to go the month only pmo on 3 days after streaks of about a week - 10 days each time. However each time I would binge and fap about 3/4 times before I picked myself up again.

    Now in June its been pretty much the same, I just relapsed last night after a week long streak after feeling really kinda like 'what's the point in nofap.. I don't feel any different really'. This wasn't completely true as I feel a lot calmer around people after a week+ of nofap, but the fact was that I didn't have the same energy after the first few days of stopping and my mind would drift back to porn more.

    Anyway I binged way too much last night/this morning and now I'm just wondering if anyone can give me advice on his to get past this 1 week block
     
  2. qinjoah

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    Hi Iggy,

    Very honoust of you to post your story here! I can imagine it is really difficult to regain the motivation to get back on the horse.. ( figure of speech ; ) )

    What really helps is not trying to focus on stopping pmo, altough its really tempting to do. The effect is the same as to not try to think about an pink elephant. As soon as you try the elephant will pop up in your mind.

    Try to do other things, go out of the house, go to the gym, start going to the gym. Read a book, paint a wall, start playing guitar and don't try to put you whole self esteem based on you succeeding in pmo or not. Try to build your self esteem on things you find worhty.

    You're a worthy person, with pmo or without pmo, please keep that in mind.
     
  3. Iggy

    Iggy Fapstronaut

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    Thanks ginjoah, that's one of my main problems- I keep thinking about my progress on nofap and how it affects my confidence and other things.

    I might start planning my days before so I can fill it with enough activities to keep my mind off porn
     
  4. aaron92

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    I reckon you should try looking at the things which cause you to PMO. For example, if you spend a lot of time in your room, try doing something which fills your time, and keeps you distracted.
     
  5. Hero One

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    Hi Iggy, like quinjoah said, very good of you to post your honest story here. Well done for that!

    It sounds like you need more of a reason to give up than the physical benefits you'll get in return, such as improved confidence. You need something deeper.

    Otherwise, when you get into the tough temptations, you will convince yourself that whatever benefits you might be feeling from nofap aren't worth the trouble. That giving in far outweighs the boost in confidence you're getting. That's how addiction works - it's a battle in your mind, and addiction has mind control on its side.

    It's in those times that you need something beyond that. Something to cling onto when everything is telling you to give up.

    I wish you all the best on your journey! You'll get there, and we're right here to back you up.
     
  6. rocky77777

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    that is some great advice sir . thank you so much :)
     

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