Waifus/Husbandos as a coping mechanism

Waifu culture is a thing that's evolved, 20 years ago it didn't even exist, nowadays there are waifus of all sizes and colors, with personalities, and FC's, fanart, merchandising, international releases and shit pro fighters and actors don't even get.
When I was younger I watched Free! and other sports anime, I developed an attraction to cute boys, and HOCD, the root to why I did this is I never had a girlfriend, and ugly mfs like me did.
Everyone develops coping mechanisms like these, some people build a whole system on them, Japan's birthrates have gone down so much the government pays people to have sex.
Id like to see if anyone has had these problems